He is so full of it. He admits nothing AND he is trying to rewrite marital history. If everything was on the up & up as he says, why is he trying to rewrite history?
He said I am the reason he & the ex-wife, mother of his adult sons, I am the reason they don't talk. I said are you kidding me? Did you really just say that?
Why are all of his responses wrong & inflammatory if he didn't have wrong intentions?
If it walks like a duck, QUACKS like a duck, it's an effing duck.
I don't have a TON of proof. I don't need it. This is my life, my marriage. Not a jury trial. At this point he could be convicted of, at the least EA, on circumstantial evidence. IF it were a trial but it's not & if I am lied to & ALL of the other shit I'm fixing to name, (for myself-I NEED this) I can not do this.
He said:I don't believe in lying. I say:you didn't tell me about a second marriage, you didn't tell me your ex-wife had sex w underage kid, nor about his DUI. I have been totally honest about my "history" & accepting of his yet he was a no show with this info.
The reasons he gave for my "crazy" wild imagination? "Honey, do you really think I would do something like that this late in the game?" when I called him on such ignorant statement, he was seething! I guess he thought it was a good reason?
He never once said he wouldn't be acting like a snake because he loved me.
When he told me that I was livid because it flies in the face of what really happened. I snapped his head off so he stopped giving me reasons.
He has also tried to misconstrue the order in which our arguments happened, conveniently making me look like trigger happy, jealous wife. No asshat. I wrote everything down. Thank you for the iPad.
I am so mad. He has an answer for everything, now he goes silent, going to wait this out, rug sweep, deny, act like the best husband, this will blow over.
I would be out if my mind. Why is he "guarding" his cell phone? I don't think anything happened beyond what I originally posted but why the fuck is he guarding his cell?
I looked through his contacts. There is no contact for R-the ex. Huge red flag. I'm sure he remembers her frickin numbers. From her phone to SS#, bra size etc. I really think he would feel compelled to put her in. You never know, he could need to quick dial her. He WOULD put her in, yet there is no entry. Must be under something else.
Another thing that pissed me the hell off. My contact info is under "Honey" then under that 1958. WTF does that mean? My info is correct & up to date. I was sneaking his iPhone & I didn't get to see who other "Honey" contact info was.
In the end this is BS. It just is. He has always "checked" up on me as though I might cheat. I have never cared, I have nothing to hide. Check away. I was understanding of this because of R, the first wife.
He swears to God he is not passworded up yet he has a password on everything. He did, after 13 years give me password to cell. He LIED & said he gave it to me a year prior. No. I WOULD remember that earth shattering event. I wonder if it is changed now? I'm sure it's cleaned up.
I looked at his gmail account. Nothing. Nada. Not a thing. Or out going OR trash. Does he have his email zipped up? He's done something. Also there was a folder with my name on it with nothing in it. I don't email my husband for any reason. I don't think I EVER have.
I'm leaning towards Internet porn. I think that's it. I think the ex wife wiggling herself got him hopeful but she isn't interested. She has convicts to convert & make good money doing it. That MUST be torture for him.
I have to go do some things but am going to add to this post. I'm about to implode.