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User Topic: What is 180?
♀ 39728
Member # 39728
Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi. I am the BS. I can't find the definition of 180 on this website. Can someone fill me in? Thank you!

Me: BS 44yo
Him: WS 42yo
Married 11yrs; together 16yr
Kids: 8yo and 3yo
Dday: June 26, 2013
Dday #2: July 22, 2013 - found out same woman and been going on since Dec 2012.
Starting the divorce process. Listing our home. Scared but hopeful.

Posts: 40 | Registered: Jul 2013
♀ 36883
Member # 36883
Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is the link....hope it helps

Me: 32 MH
Him: 39 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.

Posts: 2393 | Registered: Sep 2012
♂ 31240
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A note:

1) The 180 is for you if you desperately want R, but your WS is not willing to do the work necessary to R, and you're unable to let go.

2) If both you and your WS are working towards R, the 180 isn't for you.

3) Even if both partners are working towards R, some tactics of the 180 may be useful for any BS who needs to find or enhance his own internal strengths.

I was really confused when I first read about the 180. The stuff I read seemed to say it was for all BSes in all sitches. A lot of the tactics just didn't seem right in my case, since my W was remorseful and working for R from D-Day on.

[This message edited by sisoon at 7:49 AM, July 11th (Thursday)]

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 17096 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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