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tennispro (original poster new member #39728) posted at 1:29 PM on Thursday, July 11th, 2013
Hi. I am the BS. I can't find the definition of 180 on this website. Can someone fill me in? Thank you!
Me: BS 44yo
Him: WS 42yo
Married 11yrs; together 16yr
Kids: 8yo and 3yo
Dday: June 26, 2013
Dday #2: July 22, 2013 - found out same woman and been going on since Dec 2012.
Starting the divorce process. Listing our home. Scared but hopeful.
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 1:31 PM on Thursday, July 11th, 2013
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11
That is the link....hope it helps
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 1:42 PM on Thursday, July 11th, 2013
A note:
1) The 180 is for you if you desperately want R, but your WS is not willing to do the work necessary to R, and you're unable to let go.
2) If both you and your WS are working towards R, the 180 isn't for you.
3) Even if both partners are working towards R, some tactics of the 180 may be useful for any BS who needs to find or enhance his own internal strengths.
I was really confused when I first read about the 180. The stuff I read seemed to say it was for all BSes in all sitches. A lot of the tactics just didn't seem right in my case, since my W was remorseful and working for R from D-Day on.
[This message edited by sisoon at 7:49 AM, July 11th (Thursday)]
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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