I posted my first post yesterday. I found out that my BF of 14 months has been chatting and trying to get women to meet him for sex. I confronted him with a print out of just one of the text exchanges with one woman and believe me there are plenty to choose from
So last night, I was talking to someone who knows him and knows a lot of people in the area. Before I go further, I. Should say that for the last couple of months someone has been sending me anonymous messages on Facebook warning me about him and the things he does. It was very obvious that this person had talked to him because the messages were referencing things that he would have told this one particular person, AW. She is the person that I was speaking to last night.
I found out that pretty much everything he has ever said to me has been a lie, even the small stuff that no one would lie about. He has talked badly about me behind my back to almost everyone he knows, and knowing the way he talks about other people, I don't doubt that this is true. That is just devastating, I thought he loved me. i had to hang up the phone with AW because I was crying so hard I couldn't talk.
The last couple of months has totally sucked, I thought we were making such progress and building a beautiful life together. Now I find out that he has been sponging money from his friends and telling me that it was pay from odd jobs that he was supposedly doing. He's suspected of burglary of several houses over the last few years. He always told me that his 2 previous marriages ended due to infidelity on his wives' part, but I found out from this friend (who has known him prior to the end of his second marriage) that the infidelity was on his part.
I am standing on quicksand. I believed what he told me about his history utterly and completely - what a fool I feel.
How do you recover from this - this awful feeling of not being able to tell what is truth or lie? I just can't believe it, all the small things from the past are running through my head and I still can't see the lie but I know he did because the information from his friend tells me so. She would have no way of knowing otherwise. Help me make seen of this.