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User Topic: Custody lingo in WH's answer
♀ 28555
Member # 28555
Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my petition for divorce, I am wanting custody and child support.

Question: Is it typical "answer" lingo for the Respondent (WH) to ask for full custody and me pay child support?

He acts as if he didn't know the papers would say that.

I may be panicing for nothing, but who knows.

"If your ideal image of yourself is in the future, it's going to stay there".

Posts: 1187 | Registered: May 2010 | From: Texas
♀ 34697
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

From what I've read in this forum, it's typical.

Don't freak out...let the process work itself out.

ALso, I see your DS is 15, he may have a legitimate say in this may want to start talking to him and your L about that.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jan 2012
♀ 33226
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Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's pretty common, whatdoto. The petition and answer are the starting points for negotiation. Standard procedure to ask for every single thing, whether it makes sense or not, and then negotiate down from there.

Don't panic - hang in there.

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And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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♀ 28622
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My L said it was. It happened that way for me too. Ex acted like he had "no idea" and "never intended" blah blah blah.

don't panic, but do prepare your response if your L has asked for it.

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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