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User Topic: Teslet put together that
tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

his dad took Mosley. (Background: before D was final, ex-shat broke into the house and stole one of the dogs. Newbies - use my stupidity as a lesson and have temporary orders in place for exclusive use of the house and have them address beloved pets.)

On the way to art camp this morning, Teslet says, "Mom, dad took Mosley from your house."
Notice, not a question -- a statement. I asked him who said that to him. He said he figured it out by himself.

Sigh.
I asked him how he thought Mosley felt about it. He said that he thought Mosley was "sad because it is boring at dad's small apartment."

Sigh again.

Who wants to put a bet down on how much longer before he articulates that dad left us for stripper whore?


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like that you ask him how Mosley felt about it. I also find his answer "telling."

If he just now stated this to you with such confidence, I'd wager he's been thinking on it for awhile.

I don't know why, but I am wondering if he will worry that "dad will take him" like he did Mosley???

Hang in there and I am so glad the lines of communication are so good with you and the little guy.

*I have hesitated to post this, so I hope I don't cause undue worry, but I can't seem to NOT post it.

((hugs))) as always


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
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DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, bless his sweet baby heart.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww (((teslet))) That's one smart cookie you've got there.


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Teslet)))

You handled it perfectly, Tesla. It's very clear that your son knows he is safe with you.

Who wants to put a bet down on how much longer before he articulates that dad left us for stripper whore?

Is there a way you can gauge his feelings and see if he's been wondering about that as well?

(((Tesla, Teslet, Mosley)))


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Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, right in the FEELS tes....

Teslet is wise beyond his years and smart!...

I am not going to bet, but I know it will be well before he should actually have to deal with stripper whore mess.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((teslet)))

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can tell you from experience if he already doesn't know the stripper whore's role in all this now he will when he gets older.

As my kids have gotten older they started asking me questions about my marriage and the divorce. They already knew more than I thought and they started putting even more together as I answered their questions.

I also wouldn't put it past your son to some day ask for his dog back.


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It is what it is.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kids are pretty perceptive but you have a pretty damn perceptive one there hun. Are you sure he is only 3?

You dealt with that beautifully friend.

I STILL can't believe he stole a fucking dog.

I do 50/50 and neither of us live in the family home anymore so the girls don't really feel the sad clown "left" us.

My 5 year old does feel like he favours OWUmpteen over here - little things like not having dinner with them when they are there but having dinner with her all the time, telling them off for making noise when she's sleeping, telling them off for making noise (giggling and monkeying around) when they go to bed because it is disturbing his evening with her ( FUCKING ARSEHOLES!) - the fact that she doesn't get any time with just him.

These are the shards of glass in this shit sandwich we have to watch our children eat. I hate feeling helpless that I can't stop it happening, I can only do disaster recovery.

It sucks. Hard.

But know this. Our kids will always know we are there, we'll always be their soft place to land, we'll let them have and share their feelings, we'll help them navigate through this shit. These are the things they will remember whether consciously or subconsciously. And it will comfort them.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Teslet))))))

((((((Tesla)))))))

(((((Mosley)))))


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SBB- he's actually 4.5 now. He was 3 when D-day hit.

I'm always surprised by him because I feel like I was so oblivious as a kid. Of course, I had no reason to have to put stuff together.

You know what sucks about this infidelity/divorce shit (besides all the other shit that sucks about infidelity/divorce)? Watching the innocents have to process it. Fucking sucks.

peridot - I think Teslet has tried to ask ex-shat for Mosley. He told me once that he tried to say something to dad but that dad didn't hear him and that dad has told Teslet that Mosley is staying with him forever.

I'm sure that when Teslet becomes forceful about asking for Mosley back that ex-shat will think that it's me manipulating Teslet. (Yeah, remember, because I'm the uber bitch, driving him to commit suicide.) But if that is how he reacts, then I am willing to bet he will permanently damage his relationship with his son.

ETA FTG

[This message edited by tesla at 9:32 PM, July 11th (Thursday)]


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, July 11th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((teslet, tesla, mosley))))


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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newnormal
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Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

X got the dog in the D because it was his dog. But he shot him because I couldnt move back in. How unstable is asshat?


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
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Lalagirl
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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, July 12th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((tesla)))
((((teslet)))
((((mosley)))

My god. Preschoolers these days are more pereceptive than we were back in the day. My GS4 is quite astute as well...and is very sensitive as teslet is.

I have a feeling, sadly, that teslet is going to have some issues with his dad as he grows older; sensitive people don't mesh well with souless people.

I'm so sorry, tesla; this f-ing sucks. I love reading your happy and entertaining "teslet tales" - but this one made me cry.

More hugs to all of you...

Lala


Me - 49; FWH - 51
Married 31 years 9/2/14
2 grown daughters-30 & 27
5yo GS,2yo GD & 3 mo. GD (DD30) and 2.5 yo GD(DD27). D-day #1 - 1/06; D-day #2 - 3/07
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