Men cannot be tested for HPV and it is impossible to reliably test for herpes unless an active outbreak is occurring. Women can be tested for HPV but it is not part of a routine STD test so you will have to request it. It is very important to test for HPV as the virus is incredibly common and can cause cervical cancer.
Sexual transmission is also a great way to spread yeast infections, the common cold, etc etc.
Gently.... he says it was "just a kiss" but tell me... who would risk their marriage for one kiss? Why not go all the way? :(
So sorry for your pain :(