Most days I would say we are doing very well. I have never once since I found out about his PA even thought about leaving him. IC & MC have been going so well that the last time we went our MC told us that it was up to us if we wanted to schedule another appointment or if we wanted to wait to see if we thought we needed to come see him. He also told me that at times the last couple of sessions he has felt that I was helping him to understand his wife (seems the MC wife and I are a lot alike)
When things bother me I either tell him or I write it in my journal and he reads it in the evening. We then talk about it. When he isn't at work we spend as much time together as we can. Doing fun stuff, or just cuddling on the couch together or spending time with the kids. He has been completely open with me. I have all his email passwords, and access to his phone and the cell phone bill. We installed the "Find My Friends" app on our phones and use it whenever we are apart, including when he is at work. I honestly feel like we are closer than we have been in the 11 1/2 yrs we have been together.
Tonight he went to his parents for a couple hours, in the past that would have caused me to trigger. But I have been fine. I did go to the gym while he was gone which takes me right past her house. She wasn't home but it didn't bother me.
Do I still have my bad days when something will trigger me? Yeah, I discovered a new trigger just yesterday. However, he realized what was going on and helped me through it very quickly.
I know we are going to make it! I have faith in us! He is slowly earning my trust again. I know it will be a very long time before I trust him 100% again, but I do know that one day I will.
As for the OW. I realized this evening while I was reading through some other posts on here that I don't think I hate her anymore, well at least not with the same white hot hate that I did feel. What I feel for her now is more pity than anything else. I now realize what a pathetic, lonely, desperate person she is. I doubt she will ever find happiness and that is what she deserves!
I really do love my husband and I know he loves me! He made a bad choice, he hurt us all and almost destroyed me. But, he has asked for my forgiveness and he has asked for GOD's forgiveness. I forgive him! But I am not exactly ready to tell him that...