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UndecidedinMA posted 7/12/2013 14:29 PM

My FWSO has been estranged from his son for over a year - lots of reasons that stem from his X.

His DS married an abuser, both physical & emotional. She caused him physical damage before the wedding last year, then proceeded to alienate him from all his friends & family. He talks to none of his family, none of his friends,

Well we have just learned that his wife was arrested for domestic assault on him. I have BTDT with my exH when I was almost the same age, 23. I feel for him and want to try to reach out to him, screw the drama from before. MY FWSO is struggling with this, he was so hurt by what came before he is afraid to open that door. I am worried it may bring XDBC back into proximity to us.

I just have no idea what is right.

hardtimesinlife posted 7/12/2013 15:37 PM

I hate family estrangements and believe that sometimes life presents opportunities for us to heal them.

Did you have a relationship with him before he stopped talking to your fwso? If so, I say make mild contact and then let him come to you if he chooses. JMO

[This message edited by hardtimesinlife at 3:38 PM, July 12th (Friday)]

UndecidedinMA posted 7/12/2013 16:15 PM

I was actually the only one who had a "normal" relationship with
him. He was one of the few who knew about his fathers infidelity with his mother.

1Faith posted 7/12/2013 16:28 PM

Follow your heart. He is your SO child. He needs love and support. Reach out to him and let him know you are there for him. The past is the past. Move forward and offer him love and acceptance.

Good luck.

UndecidedinMA posted 7/12/2013 21:05 PM

Faith - that is my take