I've lurked here for a bit but this is my first post. All the info, insight and advice has been helpful.
Unfortunately, I don't think we are in R. WH still can't process quality time as my main LL, and each day that goes by without an effort from him makes me wonder if he really is doing everything he can. How can he say that when there are specific things I ask him to make time for (date night, lunch date, tv watching time, book discussions) that do not happen because he is too busy?
I have never seen this asked, but would like your input on my situation. WH claims he "forgot" his AP's name. He had a 3 month EA/PA with her, risked his marriage and kids for her; and he
forgot her name?! He swears that to me, our MC and the 3 friends of ours that know the situation. No one really believes it. I had to remind him after he went days saying he could not remember ( he had told me it shortly after dday. By August he had forgotten.) Who does that?!
This is an issue again because 2 nights ago we saw something with the kids and one of the main characters was HER name. To make it even worse, the character's love interest was my WH's name! So it was 'AP & WH' all through the show. The only reason I sat through it was because the kids were really enjoying it.. Afterwards, he asked me what was wrong. I asked him if he was joking or crazy or just plain insensitive. He didn't know what I was talking about. I asked how he could sit through the whole show with HIS and HER name over and over and not see why I would be upset. Why he would not feel uncomfortable, guilty, anything. He claims it never even crossed his mind, that he didn't put it together. DDay is only a little over a year ago.
Has anyone ever experience or heard of this? I feel like if he can so easily forget something that is so blatantly obvious, then his affair situation is doomed to repeat itself because he can just block it out, along with the consequences and fallout.