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Griefstricken25 posted 7/12/2013 23:49 PM

In a little less than 36 hours, I will be handing my children over to their sperm donor, who hasn't seen them in person since January, 2011. This is a man who is addicted to teen/college porn, likely into some other kinky deviant sexual stuff, and has admitted to viewing child porn. He will spend 2 days in and around our city, for the children to get used to him, then he'll take my 10 and 6 year olds 8 hours away to his mother's farm. 3 days later, I will take my 3 year old halfway, where he and his mother will pick her up. My 3 year old, who has NEVER been away from me more than a night or two and that was with my parents, who she sees multiple times a week, is going to spend 5 days with people she doesn't know, and a father who has the potential to molest her, since he seems to have a thing for little/young girls.

So. Please pray or think protective thoughts for them. I have been praying my heart out about this, and also for peace for myself. I DO need the break (I parent 100% solo), and I don't want to spend it fretting.

Also, on Monday, WXH and I have a meeting at the bank to finally split anything joint we've had (we couldn't do it before now because he lives out of the country). This will slightly (or more than slightly) rearrange our financial arrangement, and I'm afraid the children will be the ones who get stiffed in the end. They and their activities are getting more and more expensive, AND WXH's income goes up, but we never see a penny more. Because he's overseas, there isn't the mandatory sharing of income tax returns. So please pray and send mojo for that appointment, and that my kids don't get screwed by their cheapskate sperm donor.

Thanks, SI.

peridot posted 7/12/2013 23:55 PM

(((Griefstricken25)))

I said a prayer for you and the kids.

dmari posted 7/13/2013 01:40 AM

I cannot believe the children have to go. Why? I don't know what else to say but I will definitely have all of you in my prayers.

Griefstricken25 posted 7/13/2013 09:54 AM

I have to let them go because he's never actually DONE anything to the children. The kids are super excited to go, too, which makes me ill.

I truly appreciate all the prayers.

peridot posted 7/13/2013 10:24 AM

I hate that the courts wait until something happens to the kids.

The GAL told me there wasn't anything they could do until he or the OW did something to my kids. I told her it wasn't a matter of if he or the OW do something to my kids but when. Turns out I was right.

My XH has some sexual issues. I was always worried he would do something to the kids. I was also worried about the OW abusing them because she has a history of physical abuse. In the end it was the OW who abused my kids.

dreamlife posted 7/13/2013 10:30 AM

Sending strength, prayers, and good thoughts!

((((huge hugs)))

Kajem posted 7/13/2013 11:23 AM

You and your kids are in my prayers.

Sending hugs also,

K

hangingontohope7 posted 7/13/2013 16:47 PM

I will be praying you and your children.

(((((((Griefstricken25)))))))

Nature_Girl posted 7/13/2013 16:51 PM

((((PRAYERS AND GOOD THOUGHTS))))

caregiver9000 posted 7/13/2013 23:12 PM

Prayers. Wishes and hopes and positive thoughts and everything else I can think of.

I will think about you and them until they are safely back at home and the sigh of relief is breathed.

((((((GS)))))) and propping you up

tesla posted 7/14/2013 11:25 AM

((((((Griefstricken)))))

Mousse242 posted 7/14/2013 13:46 PM

You need to get your kids in counseling and make sure they are clear as to what abuse is and to report it immediately to you and the counselor. Make sure the counselor explains to them grooming behavior, etc. so they know what to be on alert for. Also, so that the older kids can can watch out for the youngest one.

IS there any way the cops can search his computer for kiddie porn?

Fooled Me Twice posted 7/14/2013 14:22 PM

Prayers to you and your littles. I will be thinking of them.

Chrysalis123 posted 7/14/2013 14:50 PM

praying

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