The only information I have gotten is what I found. WS has confirmed he is a cheater, they were not as attractive as me,and it is all my fault.
It's disgusting and I am sorry that you are here. I really can say that I know how you feel and am truly sorry.
If they don't have remorse, you just can't work with that.
I'm so so sorry. It's so wrong.
(Making it all your fault is particularly messed up!)
It's natural to be hesitant, to avoid, even deny that there's an inevitable outcome when dealing with remorselessness...when "we" file...but when you take the reigns, and file -
that's when they pull their heads out.
When it gets "real".
D is a long process, and you can stop it before it concludes, but if they're ever going to "get it", and get a clue - that's the wake-up call.
I just hate seeing you guys suffer. Lack of remorse and blameshifting is just so damaging - I wish you could avoid it.
I have had a couple of months to try to process the information, but it has done little for my overall attitude.
I think that I found my true inner self due to his actions, I have become a bitter, sarcastic, heartless bitch.
He had the audacity to tell me that he doesn't feel safe giving me info because I have become too unpredictable!
gee, ya think?
[This message edited by madsadalone at 8:04 AM, July 13th (Saturday)]
When I was under the misapprehension that R was a possibility, I believed I needed to know everything. I still would prefer to know. But, really, I knew everything I needed to know in order to make decisions about my life: I was married to a cheater who values secrets and lies more than me and our marriage (and family). So the lack of info? Speaks volumes.
[This message edited by solus sto at 9:26 AM, July 13th (Saturday)]
I could not have said it better.
I will add that mine thinks he is the "victim", so I refuse to file for D. I feel that he is waiting for me to do so.
Ain't gonna happen til I am damn good and ready.
tennispro - re getting very little info.
Neither did I.
It's confusing - can this be real? - I know!
Lemme tell you. There will come a point in your heart when it tells you;
"You know enough."