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User Topic: So sad and extremely pissed off
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am feeling so overwhelmed. I posted earlier about my WBF signing the new lease to MY (he is only on the lease as a roommate) and the clusterfuck that is now happening. Basically, the apt manager said that they will not redraw the contract and they have a legally binding agreement with him. I get that, but what I don't get is how he is somehow equivalent to me on the lease, even though he had to provide no financial information to them and I'm the one who pays the rent. I was also there for a year and a half before he was added to the lease.

So essentially, he has taken my apartment away from me because I refused to sign the lease if he was on it.




Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
ionlytalkedtoher
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ouch. is there someway you could just move out and take all your things and just move on ?

Posts: 264 | Registered: Jul 2013
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oops, hit the wrong key.
Now I am faced with having to get my stuff out of the apt ASAP because I don't trust him at all. I don't have anywhere to go and I don't want to leave my things in the apt with him because I don't trust him.

A couple of my friends and I are going to the apt and getting as much stuff out as I can today and into a storage. I'll have to go back and get the furniture when I can hire someone to get it it of there. I just can't believe this utter horseshit......he has not intention of actually keeping the apt, or paying the rent. He will wait until they evict him. How can someone who says they want to spend the rest of their life with you do a complete turnaround in 24 hrs.?

I asked him one last time yesterday if he would sign the statement removing his name from the lease. I got a fuck no, I'm not signing that and then he hung up on me. Then a few hours later, he texts me and says that I need to chill out and he will be moving on in August, really??. I have not begged or cried in front of him, but I am just devastated . Can't even see the keyboard because I'm crying so much.




Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am trying to. Spent all day yesterday trying to find a place to live,but didn't have any luck.

I was hoping to be able to get all my stuff into a uhaul today, but that is going to be impossible. I'm staying with friends an hour away, but im not going to be able to stay there for long.




Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

computer fart :/

[This message edited by doggiediva at 6:25 PM, July 13th (Saturday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

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doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am seriously thinking about finding a way to do this but I have two 4 legged kiddos that make it harder for me to do..

I want to D WH but I know that the process will take time..

I know that I have to get the police to evict him but I have to file for D first, I haven't done that yet..

I want to be out of the house as of yesterday :/

I was thinking of finding friends of mine that have a need to go on vacation, but need sitters for their doggies, kitties or homes..

A good way for me to get a breath of fresh air and be away from WH..

In my case, I would have to find people that allow me to bring my doggies with me..

Can you do something like this, so that you would have space and time to yourself to search for a permanent place ?

[This message edited by doggiediva at 6:28 PM, July 13th (Saturday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

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LearningToFly
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Are you saying that you pay the rent and he won't leave? Does he plan to stay without paying rent until he is evicted? Or is he planning to move out in August? Could you store your things for just this month, live the rest of July away from there, and go back when he is gone? Will the manager do anything then? Your WEX sounds like he is just a mean spirited guy. If you move away and act like its not a big deal, maybe he will slink off into the sunset in a few weeks.

If your financials are on the lease, then it could affect your credit which will make it hard for you to find another place. I wonder if getting a lawyer involved would be helpful to light a fire under your squatter or the apartment manager allowing him to take advantage of you. Does the manager really want to deal with evicting someone and having to find another tenant? It sounds like you have been there awhile. Seems smarter to help you get rid of WEX somehow.


Me - BS (53) Him-WS(58)
Her OW(55) HighSchoolGirlfriend
Together 30 years Married 28 Kids 24,21,18
D day Feb 26 2013 after 20 months
D day March 4 they met again "to say goodbye"
D day April 2 found out about secret email

Posts: 188 | Registered: Apr 2013
Celticlass
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Default  Posted: 1:17 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Learning to fly &doggiediva- yes that is exactly what I am saying, I pay the rent and he refuses to leave. Since he is in the lease as a roommate, we both have to sign a statement saying that he agrees to take his name on the lease. Another wrinkle in this whole fucking mess is that he went to the apt manager on Thursday and signed the new lease for another year.

He has no intention of paying the rent at all. So I refused to sign the lease, called in some favors with friends and are in the process of getting my stuff out of the apt.

I have consulted an attorney and apparently this crap is legal & the spt won't do anything bout this. I don't understand their stance but I told them I would not sign and I would be out by Aug 31. I am going to consult the attorney &find out how i can protect myself from being responsible if he can damages the apt.

I would have thought that they would help me, cuz after all, I'm the primary leaseholder.





Posts: 72 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Lone Star State
Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 3:35 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would have thought that they would help me, cuz after all, I'm the primary leaseholder.

Right?!?

If they really want to take some guy they have not vetted ...well...just so long as the give you your deposit back...


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
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doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wish you can live somewhere else as previously mentioned..And in the process of getting out of the place,( if you are the first one leaving), it seems like you would have the right to have the manager or one of the apt employees do a walk thru with you and sign his/her name to an affidavit/contract/check off sheet establishing a baseline that apt is undamaged as of the time that you left.. I would also take very detailed pics of the doors, windows walls, everything with a camera that has the date set and can't be tampered with..Gotta be some way that you will be able to prove that you didn't do any damage so it won't be your word against WBF...

[This message edited by doggiediva at 2:01 PM, July 14th (Sunday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

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doggiediva
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And please, please don't get too discouraged..In the worst case scenario that you are associated for any damages that your WBF does it is possible to recover your credit and/or counter sue and keep things pending in dispute until you get your breath and get good legal help....Document carefully with pictures..My youngest son had a history of moving into apartments and then breaking leases..In two of the apartments he left minor damage and got sued...He was guilty...Eventually he grew up and got his head out of his A#$$..Within a year or two he was able to get the apt people off of his back and reestablish his credit rating to something adequate enough to buy a house at a decent interest rate(not the lowest interest rate though)

[This message edited by doggiediva at 2:12 PM, July 14th (Sunday)]


Don't tie your happiness to the tail of somebody else's kite

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