I have been reading on here for awhile now and decided to join. My story is pretty much as typical as everyone else. We have been together for 15 years and have two teenage daughters. We begin having problems at the beginning of last summer and by October he started and emotional affair. After two weeks of texting I discovered it and he promised it would stop. Of course it never did. I found out about a week later that she actually worked with him and at the time I thought it was still going to be o.k. At this point this is when they started meeting. During all this I was trying very hard to make it work, but did not know that they were still seeing each other. Also, during this time he was being very mean to me and treating me very badly. By December I finally had enough and tried to kick him out. This is when he sort of opened his eyes he immediately quit his job and has been somewhat trying to make it up to me. Fast forward to January and this is when more truth came out about the fact that he had actually sleep with her.
I have been trying really hard to reconcile, but some days I just don't know if I can. There was so much hurt during all this and that is the hardest to forgive. I still feel like there is way more to the story than he will ever be willing to give me. For instance he says he didn't feel anything for her, but they only slept together twice so it was mostly an EA. He says that since he finally told me that they slept together that is as bad as it gets and there is nothing else to tell. I just feel that the EA hurt more than the PA and I just can't get him to understand that.
I guess what I am asking is whether or not you ever get the full truth? If you didn't how were you able to move on? I really don't know if I don't have absolutely everything I am looking for I won't be able to move past the point I am at.