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User Topic: So he has to ruin this too...
♀ 32265
Member # 32265
Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry, last post today.
He was gone all day to a riding event almost 3 hours away. I didn't expect and I had hoped he wouldn't be home before I left for the party.
He came home, saw I had just showered. Asked if I was going out. I just said yes. He walked away shaking his head saying, "already stepping out" in this song song voice. I did not engage.
He then noticed I didn't eat much of my salad and told me I better eat more if I'm going to be drinking. I never drink, can't stand the taste of alcohol. I made a face and he says ," we'll you just may since you are already stepping out."
God, isn't it enough that he ripped my life apart the past 4 years, now he has to be an ass. He knows I am shy in social settings.
Now in even sicker to my stomach, but I am going, even if its for an hour.

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

Posts: 639 | Registered: May 2011
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fuck that guy. Go and have a great time!

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 19926 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
♀ 34146
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know the best revenge is a life well lived, right?

Go, forget about him, and have a fabulous time.

Also -- continue on with ignoring him, but try to get even better (no faces, etc.) It's clearly driving him nuts. Don't let him win by stooping to his level and answering his inane drivel!

I'm not even sure what he means by "stepping out," but he just sounds like a giant loser. A sing-song voice? Is he four? You are so lucky to get rid of that loser. FTG!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 4120 | Registered: Dec 2011
♀ 36434
Member # 36434
Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wait, he cheated on you, so you are getting divorced, and you decide to go out during your in-house separation, and he accuses you of stepping out? Oh, hahahahahaha! Seriously, he couldn't be a bigger, stupider loser. FTG is right!

Listen, these types always like to make accusations about their BS's morals and suggest that WE are cheating OR doing something wrong. My STBX was actively involved in a PA (which I thought was just an EA, but later got proof that there definitely was sex) with our daughter's friend's mother, who lives 3 blocks from us, and do you know what he was doing during that time? Accusing ME of having a long-term affair with my male friend, who literally lives an ocean and half a continent away. Just ignore your WH. He's pulling from the playbook and he isn't even original.

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012
♀ 36399
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He can only ruin it if you let him.

I say stay out all night or at the very least come home late with a big smile on your face.

“You can make mistakes, but you are not a failure until you blame others for those mistakes.” -John Wooden

Posts: 121 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Canada
♀ 37215
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Even if you stay just an hour ~ go somewhere after and relax. Bookstore, coffee shop, shopping. THEN go home with a big smile on your face.

and GOOD FOR YOU for going out!!

I SURVIVED infidelity. Me 45, DD 21, DS 17
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2849 | Registered: Oct 2012
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, July 13th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


He can only ruin it if you let him.


Have a great time and do not even think about him!

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5988 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


And I hope you had a good time.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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