If you decided to mediate, what issues did you mediate? Would you recommend it?
I just want to feel more confident about my decision to not mediate. I would appreciate some honest feedback especially if you can explain if I am missing something.
Quick background: Married 19 years. I was mainly a SAHM, homeschooled kids with special needs and worked part time as a teacher. He is a cop for almost 15 years. Stbx has mental health issues.
We each have our own vehicle. His is a 2012 car and mines is 2006.
We rented our home.
He has a pension which I am entitled to 35%.
Child support ~ State guidelines
Children's tuition ~ Isn't 50/50 reasonable?
Uncovered medical expenses ~ Again, isn't 50/50 reasonable?
Parenting plan ~ He is entitled to visitations (total is 5 hours a week) but children do not wish to see/speak to him at this time.
Alimony ~ Haven't asked for any.
Credit card debt ~ 50/50 right?
He currently owes me for back tuition and money that was borrowed from a savings account for DS14 tuition. This money was used to purchase his police vehicle with the intent of putting the money back into the savings account using the raise he would receive by having his own police vehicle within 4 years.
I know he is not going to want to pay me back for the children's tuition. If he refuses and we go to court, what are the odds that the judge will force me to "forgive" the outstanding balance? He will also not want to pay the difference between what our vehicles are worth. What is there to bargain?
Right now, I have temp physical custody and joint legal. I would like full on both. Is this something I would negotiate?
I'm reading a book about divorce/mediation and instead of understanding the point of mediation, I keep asking myself what would he and I mediate about? Which is why I'm asking you guys.