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BetrayedinMN posted 7/13/2013 18:26 PM

Seems like forever since I have been on here and it probably has. Long story short...10/10/10 found out about affair with co-worker. Initially I believed him when he said it was emotional not physical. We entered MC right away but had a lot of difficulty in R. Last September I discovered he was still contacting/talking/texting her every day...all day long. October I got served with papers and divorce was final end of April.

Since that time, it's been difficult. The night before he moved out, he forced himself on me...he came back the day he moved out and beat on my door. He is constantly insulting me, threatening's so hard. We share the kids 50/50. Wish I had never agreed to it.

Anyway, I've been isolating myself so I thought I would come back here and give it a try...get support and offer support.

Me 43
XH 42
Dday #1 (EA) 2008
Dday #2 (EA) 2010
DDay #3 (EA) 9-2-12
3 kids (17, 12 and 10)

Was served divorce papers on 10/30/12
Divorced 4/30/13

Chrysalis123 posted 7/13/2013 18:48 PM

Welcome back. You have found a great pleace. I am sorry he is being such a big fat jerk to you.

Elaine2012 posted 7/13/2013 18:49 PM

(((BetrayedinMN))). I just want you to know you've been heard. SI has been a life saver for me you will get the support you need. Just post as often as you need to. I'm sorry you've had to deal with a terrible situation.

Nature_Girl posted 7/13/2013 18:57 PM

I'm sorry you're here, but we're a great bunch.

BetrayedinMN posted 7/14/2013 06:25 AM

Thanks everyone. Glad to be back

fraeuken posted 7/14/2013 09:38 AM

Sorry you are here but given the circumstances I think this is the most AWESEOME place you can find to share. Stay strong!

phmh posted 7/14/2013 09:38 AM


Welcome back. What do you mean that he forced himself on you? Remember that you can call the police. It may be helpful for you to call a domestic violence hotline so you know what your options are. There is absolutely no need for you to subject yourself to any abuse or intimidation from him!

tesla posted 7/14/2013 11:29 AM


What phmh said. If there are steps you can take to alleviate your fear and anxiety around him, please do. If that means calling the cops or a domestic violence hotline, please do. That fucker should be leaving you the fuck alone.

Keep posting.

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