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User Topic: “Divorcing a Narcissist: One Mom’s Battle”
Nature_Girl
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Shocked  Posted: 8:13 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have you read this book? I'm in the middle of reading it, triggering right & left, feeling sick to my stomach, having to take breaks and calm myself down. But of course I can't stop reading it.

I feel like events, conversations and thoughts from my own life have been copied down & published. Only the names & a few locations have been changed. It breaks my heart to read about other moms (I know some dads go through this, but it's us moms who shoulder the majority of this problem) who have to watch the legal system utterly fail their children and allow mentally ill fathers access to their children & completely mindfuck them.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10039 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The Parent Without a Conscience : http://psychopathfree.com/content.php?252-The-Parent-Without-a-Conscience


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10039 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I started watching old Seinfeld reruns about a year ago. (I could not understand the "funny show" when it first came out because my son had been killed and I drifted in/out of shock and grief for many years.)

Well, to my amazement now, its as if STBX had taken words and entire lines from the show!

Did he ever have a real Life of his own?

Was he in a padded cell somewhere for years?

There had been no break in his employment for 31 years and I saw the paperwork to prove this...

Its just crazy making!

I'm so sorry you are going through this, NG.

((((huge hugs)))


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25435 | Registered: Sep 2005
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, to my amazement now, its as if STBX had taken words and entire lines from the show!

STBX loves to quote this show! Ohmygosh, I used to be driven over the edge of sanity when I'd try to have a conversation with him and he'd break into a script from Seinfeld for each response.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10039 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, July 14th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OMG!!!

I have never had anyone do this before...what a total Mind Fuck!


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25435 | Registered: Sep 2005
peridot
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I see things here on SI all the time that are similar or the same to my situation. It's like they can't get original or it's in some book that's handed out to all NPD's.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
chikastuff
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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bought it yesterday and read it in a night. There are so many similarities, but a lot of differences too. Narcissists and sociopaths come in many forms, they're like snowflakes that way. But I loved her approach to dealing with him. At many points I stopped and said "OMG I feel like I'm reading SI!" to myself.


Me- 32
Happily engaged and moving on

Posts: 382 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: New England
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm not ready to read the books like this one, because of the triggers and inability to concentrate.

Oh yes, quotes come from Mr. Peckerwood at times and you can actually google them...he is sci fi oriented and I think would be glad to be Mr. Spock, for he has given me some of the actual lines or break up lines from those shows and movies.

There is evan a sort of robotic sense about him sometimes, like with emotions, and when I see or hear those shows, it's a little perturbing.


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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