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DD has been at the residential treatment program for 6 weeks now. She has adjusted to the location, the schedule, and the people (both staff and other clients) fairly well. That is all good.

Since she entered the program, her focus has been almost exclusively on getting back home. She has been doing really well. Very compliant, doing extra chores for bonus behavior points, etc.. All that is good, but it's been more a matter of "behaving" rather than changing behaviors due to the program, if that makes any sense. This is apparently a very common thing - a honeymoon sort of a phase - that many clients go through upon entry to the program.

Over the past week or so, cracks have started to show in the surface, and DD's anxiety is bubbling to the top. She has had some arguments with peers, and during her last overnight pass this past weekend, she had a major blow up. DS was at home and able to help defuse the situation to the point where we could safely transport her back to the residential facility.

The therapists have suggested that we put a hold on future overnight passes, and stick to day passes until she is further along in her treatment. I have not yet talked to DD about it, but I know she will be heartbroken.

This setback was not only understandable, but honestly, somewhat expected. Doesn't make it any easier to go through, however, for either DD or the rest of us.

I wanted to thank everyone for the support and positive energy you've been sending our way. It is such a comfort.

Thanks for the update. My thoughts and hopes and best wishes are with you, your DS, and your DD. I hope this becomes easy for all of you, even though it is supremely difficult now.

I've seen the "honeymoon" period in my students... It lasts until the client/student realizes that unless they do the hard work of the program they're not going home.

Then their real issues/behaviors come out and the hard work/real work begins.

Hopefully she'll get down to the hard work of her treatment program and things will move along and she can come home for good.

Thanks for the update. Continuing to think of you and yours.

Thanks for the update.

It sounds like she is in the perfect place and that they see the cycle in this type of healing.

Continued prayers.

AJ's MOM

I can't imagine how hard this is for any of you. I give you props, mom. You have her best interests at heart.

You're doing an amazing job, NIK. I'm proud of all of you.

I'm just so thankful that she's in a program where she can be safe and they can make adjustments as needed to help her in her current state.

(((NiK, DD, DS)))

(((Nik & DD)))

Thank you for the update. Sounds like she has a great team of therapists (and of course an amazing mom) to help her and give her the tools she needs. Sending both of you mojo, strength, support, and love.

((((nik & DD))))

Thank you for posting this update, I have been wondering how it's going for your DD.

You are doing a great job as a mum, and I know you will keep supporting her working her way through this program.

Just wish that doing what you - as a parent - need to do weren't so hard.

Sending more strength and positive thoughts (and mojo!) to you and your family.

((((nik & DD))))

(((((NIK & DD))))) Continued healing and loving thoughts to you both

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(((((NIK and DD)))))

You guys are the best.

Thanks for the update, I've been thinking about your DD.

((((nik and dd)))

Try to think of it not as a setback but a step forward in the healing?

(((NIK and DD)))

(((Nik)))

Sending mojo

(((nik)))

Thanks, guys.