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User Topic: i feel ready but know i shouldnt
♀ 11089
Member # 11089
Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It will be one year that I left my 21 year marriage..haven't slept with anyone and I am taking care of myself by myself...I've had two little upsets with a too into himself the other not healed from his recent break up..I move on...I work a lot..crazy hours.yet I find on my down time that I m sooooo lonely!!! My friends and family tell me that I deserve the best in life including in a partner....but I can't seem to get over the fact that it's not happening??? (Prob means I'm not ready)...been on this site since 2006 ad thanks to all of you I can see this is what it is.....I'm looking for it!! My best friend says "stop lookin" an although I think its a good sign that I'm interested I know that I prob should hang back and wait but damn it!!! I'm gonna be 39 years old..... I don't want someone to take care of me..I want someone healthy to just want me???? This part is so frustrating! Thanks for reading:-)

3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1120 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
♀ 21925
Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

39 is so young! I know exciting things are headed your way. Hang in there

BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo

Posts: 1034 | Registered: Dec 2008
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, July 15th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wonder if it is the time of year?

That would be me, trying to rationalize the feeling...


I understand.

I think "not looking" translates into projecting settled and available as opposed to "desperate and needy." You have to keep your eyes open (ie, look) or you can miss all kinds of things!!

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 14 DS 11
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 6546 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
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