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SecondHelping posted 7/15/2013 20:25 PM

I read about us having Antiversaries, but I don't completely understand when it is?

Is it the subsequent years after D-Day? Specific days of the A? The start of the A? ????

For me it was:
20 Aug - Kissing and hand holding
22 aug - Blow Job
28 Aug - Sex
2 Oct - Suspected but lied to
3 Oct - Confirmed with truth

Which one is my Antiversary or are they all Antiversaries?

ButterflyGirl posted 7/15/2013 20:54 PM

I think of an antiversary as a specific day once a year that causes you to remember something significant.. You wouldn't celebrate it, hence the "anti." I have my wedding date coming up in August, and then D-day in September, and I will consider both of those antiversaries..

I went through our "sexiversary" (the date we first had sex 12 years ago) in February.. That was definitely an "antiversary" for me..

I think any of those you mentioned would qualify..

Hugs..

WhatsRight posted 7/17/2013 08:41 AM

Many people feel that the 'discovery day (Dday) is the antiversary. The day you found out - or confronted - or whatever.

For me, it is the day he was with the prostitute. I don't even remember the day I found her picture on his computer - I just remember March 9 every year. On that date, I was home with the kids, and he was away - supposedly working - and in a motel room with a whore, getting oral sex.

That is my antiversary.

I think it might be whatever has had the greatest impact on you.

HUGS

tushnurse posted 7/17/2013 08:43 AM

The Anti for me is my Dday. I actually celebrate that Biatch now.