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Topic: Today I am 30

rumorhasit
♀ 38943
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Posted: 10:27 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

I'm not sure how to feel about leaving my 20s. I had more stupid things to do! 30 just seems so... serious.

There are certainly many things I am no longer going to put up with in my 30s. I'm too old for that shit.

That being said, X is picking up DS in an hour (its his usual visitation, I could keep DS as it's my bday but I'd actually like some alone time.)

I'm taking bets on whether or not he will remember it's my birthday! Any takers?

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California

lostmommy
♀ 33440
Member # 33440

Posted: 10:32 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday! (((hugs)))

My XH wished me a happy birthday the first year that he left (it's hard to forget mine - it's Christmas Day). This past year he didn't. I don't know which I preferred lol. On the one hand as the mother of his child, it's nice to be acknowledged on my special day. On the other as he's a fuckwad, it's almost an insult for him to wish me a happy day.

Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY

rumorhasit
♀ 38943
Member # 38943

Posted: 11:52 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Yeah, I'm not sure which I would prefer. He picked him up and didn't say anything other than some petty reason why DD wasnt with him. Idiot.

BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin

Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California

Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122

Posted: 11:58 AM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy day, rumorhasit! 30 is hardly bad at all, and you still have plenty of time to be stupid!

The Princess had the boys give me a nice card from her on Fathers' Day, and it pissed me off. If she hadn't, it might have pissed me off at least as much.

In a lot of areas, they really can't win with us - and that's exactly what they deserve.

Me: 1970
Two sons: 2000 and 2003
Cheating louse: What's her name again?

Married Aug/95
DDay Nov/12
Separated Mar/13
Finally divorced Jul/17

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous!

Posts: 3560 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada

dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215

Posted: 12:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

HaPpY bIrThDaY!!!!! Enjoy your time to yourself!!

I'm with pass ~ stbx didn't acknowledge my birthday or mothers day but eh ... whatev's. "...they really can't win with us - and that's exactly what they deserve.

Posts: 2868 | Registered: Oct 2012

Mommato4
♀ 15906
Member # 15906

Posted: 12:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday rumor!

Enjoy your day!

PS: I get what you're feeling. My birthday is Saturday and I'm turning 40. A whole new decade to start.

Cancers unite!

BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/2008

Posts: 1414 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 1:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday!!! From a personal perspective, I loved my 30s. Still so young, high energy and enthusiasm levels, and it seemed like people took me more seriously. It's all good.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40227 | Registered: Aug 2011

ButterflyGirl
♀ 38377
Member # 38377

Posted: 1:24 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday!!

Don't worry, the 30s haven't been too bad so far. Maybe when I'm 40 I will get more serious? But I doubt it

And yeah, whether he remembers or not, FTG..

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA

Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134

Posted: 1:36 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday,

30's were fun... 40's were where I felt I was coming into my own.. 50's well the jury is still out.

Enjoy your day..Do something special just for you.

Hugs,

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida

jo2love
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Member # 31528

Posted: 2:08 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday!!!

Posts: 50544 | Registered: Mar 2011

curiouswiz
♀ 34405
Member # 34405

Posted: 2:10 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy Birthday!!! Do something really nice for yourself! Thirty is so young! I just hit 60 in June! Yay Cancer's! Yay US!

40's are nice! 50's even better! Take care and the 60's might be okay too! I'm wishing you a beautiful day rumor!

God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston

Vulcanized
♀ 33523
Member # 33523

Posted: 2:40 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013

Happy milestone!!!

Don't let a turd wreck your special day.

Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now: happy in life, happily in love with the RIGHT man -----> Everything is as it should be

Posts: 940 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: The Hostile City

BrighterFuture
♂ 38914
Member # 38914

Posted: 2:53 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy birthday!!! I'll be 30 in September. My baby is due in September too. I'm overwhelmed but I'll take it as it comes. Enjoy your day!!!

Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!

"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.

Posts: 539 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Ohio

Coraline
♀ 36434
Member # 36434

Posted: 3:34 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy birthday!

Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.

Posts: 771 | Registered: Aug 2012

SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229

Posted: 8:43 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy Birthday! 30 is so young!

I always think of my 80 year old self kicking my arse for calling myself old or not seeing how beautiful and astonishingly young and vibrant I am at 38.

Everyone should channel their inner 80 year old selves.

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 6000 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia

npain
♀ 33539
Member # 33539

Posted: 3:09 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy birthday!

S, Filed 4/17/14--YAY, ME!!

Posts: 515 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: New York

gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595

Posted: 3:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

HAPPY 30TH BIRTHDAY !!!!!

Hope you had some alone time and enjoyed your day !

BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20489 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..

JanetS
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Member # 2766

Posted: 3:27 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy Birthday Young One.

I'm 61 and (in my head) I'm still in my 30's at times. I get together with girlfriends regularly (think Sex and the City...without the sex LOL) and laugh and have a ball.

30's will be FANTASTIC...really!

Posts: 3061 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada

tryingagain74
♀ 33698
Member # 33698

Posted: 4:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy birthday! I liked my 30s better than my 20s. Welcome to what I think is the better decade!

FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 4079 | Registered: Oct 2011

soveryalone1
♂ 39807
Member # 39807

Posted: 4:23 PM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013

Happy birthday, I kept making plenty of mistakes once I hit 30 :) hopefully your birthday goes better than mine did, I made the horrible mistake of calling my Xfiance , thinking she might tell me happy birthday, I had a few beers so first call went like this
" what do you want , I am watching TV with D" ( d is an old friend of mine who she began a EA with and after her and I were together 12 years, she began seeing him after 3 weeks apart from me) I don't recall the second or third calls, but the second to last call went like this, me " I think part of you might be angry that I left" her " I am ECSTATIC YOU LEFT ECSTATIC" last call and last time I will ever speak to her in my life " J if you call one more time you will hear D F_cking me".... so ye I didn't quite get a happy birthday haha
that last one scarred me, and I think I will remain scarred for a VERY long time, oh joy

jao

Posts: 75 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Vermont USA

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