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User Topic: Seeing him tomorrow!!
Crash!
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Member # 32662
Default  Posted: 4:23 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm seeing the guy I kissed last week tomorrow! I'm so nervous...

I'm scared that he won't go near me or mention the kiss thing, and I'll have to either ask the awkward question or ignore it and not know. Or that he'll say he's not interested,and I'll be gutted...

This is the first guy I've actually liked, or had anything at all for and it's making me jittery as hell. I'm worried it'll all blow up and I'll still have to see him because we have the same circle of friends...


I got out. I think I saved myself.

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
hurtinky
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Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 5:38 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He kissed you last week but you haven't heard from him since then?

Next.


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
Crash!
♀ 32662
Member # 32662
Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, sorry I missed it off. We've been texting all week, and he's been sweet about always asking questions, texting me again if he hasn't heard back from me in a few hours, telling me what he's up to and once sent a silly picture of his day.

He's on my sports team, and we've been friends for a while. He kissed me after a game last week, but a few weeks before that he told me he had a complicated situation with an ex so I said to figure it out first and hen get back to me....

Gack. The team is like a family, they were a support system during my breakup. I'm scared that it'll get messed up, but I also like him and he seems like a good guy. I'm kind of in too deep to not have it get messed up anyway.


I got out. I think I saved myself.

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
hurtinky
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Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The "complicated situation" doesn't sound good. I still say "Next"!!!


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, July 17th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm kind of in too deep to not have it get messed up anyway.

What do you mean? This sounds ominous!


BS, now age 54, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5903 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Crash!
♀ 32662
Member # 32662
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ahh, more that I already have screwed up my little happy place by developing a crush on him, and so no matter what happened after the awkwardness was going to be there.

And I totally made a hash of it last night anyway :-(


I got out. I think I saved myself.

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Crash)))

Hope you are doing ok.


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3533 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Crash!
♀ 32662
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uggh. Cringe. I just asked feelingy questions when we were on verge of kissing and he reacted pretty honestly but I didn't love his answer and also didn't get enough info so I pushed him on it later. He eventually answered again and the answer was a bit more positive, but I just feel like I was too pushy and weird. But then the other option was just to ignore what I needed to know and make him feel comfortable at the expense of my needs.

Ugh..


I got out. I think I saved myself.

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Crash)))


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Crash!
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is really getting to me for some reason, this dating thing, and I have no idea why it's hitting me so hard. I'm not eating or sleeping right...


I got out. I think I saved myself.

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: UK
cmego
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the first "rejection" during dating is generally the hardest. As my IC always told me, take a step back and cocoon yourself. Take care of yourself first.

Dating is a lot like dipping your toes in the water to see if you are ready. You dipped toes in...not ready. Time to step back and focus on yourself/heal/grow more then try again later.


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


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