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Topic: Yes! A step forward
Member # 39387
Posted: 6:12 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013
I do have to give my WH props. I was having a rough morning. Went into the bathroom tears streaming down my face with my phone debating on calling him at work. I really hate the thought of calling him while he is out on location. I don't want to distract him cause that can be a very big safety hazard. Anyways, I call. To be honest I had no idea what I wanted or needed out of this phone call.
Him - Hey babe hows it going?
Me- Not well
Him - Are you ok?
Me- Not really
Him- I love you & I am deeply sorry for the pain I have caused you. Let me have it. Get it all out.
Me- No you are at work
Him- Do you need me to come home?
Me- No you are at work.
Him- Screw them its just a job, if you need me I am coming home.
I realized that was exactly what I needed from him at that moment and he came through. We talk a bit longer then hang up. He calls me back about 30 mins later.
Him- I just wanted to make sure you are ok.
Me- Yes I am ok now (and I meant it)
For us this is a big deal. Work has always came 1st. He has missed bdays, anniversary's, fam emergencies because of work. For him to be willing to shut downs his rig with the chance of loosing his job is just... Wow.
Ugh! Sometimes reality sucks.
BS (me) 31
WH (him) 33
OW - married Bar Whore Rig Rat
Married 14 years
3 amazing kids
DDay-3/03/2013 TT.The whole truth came out(hopefully) 06/09/2013
Currently on the roller coaster of R.
Posts: 48 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 38207
Posted: 6:22 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013
This makes me smile. I'm so happy for you and know exactly what a big deal that is. I still can't believe he offered (not sure any of the rig guys I know would). I hope this is the first of many steps you guys can take toward healing!
Posts: 1173 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 31349
Posted: 6:27 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013
That is a fantastic step forward. Good for him!
"Welcome the rawness of vulnerability as an opportunity to open." - Pema Chodron
Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16
Posts: 18702 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 31528
Posted: 10:07 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013
I'm sorry this morning was rough. Sounds like he really stepped up to the plate and was very supportive. I'm so glad to hear it.
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