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User Topic: What is MY problem
♀ 37548
Member # 37548
Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so first I know I did the number 1 no-no. We are 22 months into recovery and FWH has been doing everything he can to help me through this nightmare. OW attempts contact every couple of months and he always ignores (last contact was 13 months ago when he accidentally answered his cell out in the field.....and didn't recognize her voice & had to ask twice who it was!). Anyway it's been a long stretch of 4 months since she last sent a text and I have had it. We decided to respond by him typing "I don't know how to be more clear. Fuck off". To this she immediately called and I answered (couldn't help it.....I called shortly after Dday and she promptly got off the phone.) so when I answered i told her my husband would never take a call from her....she asked what my problem was? I told her my problem was her fucking my husband a couple of years ago and she can't let it go. Her response.....yeah, so...what is your problem?
At that point I hung up realizing she would never get remorse. She is going to pursue my husband until she finds another man to focus her crazy on. I'm not looking for any advice, just venting

Me-BW 44
Him WH 44
OW single 54 co-worker
Married 21 years at d-day
kids: DD21 DS 17

Posts: 43 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: CA
♀ 38207
Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I know how you feel! Except OW didn't ask what my problem was, she told me what my problem was. 'Youre obviously not giving him what he needs at home. If you were, he wouldn't have come running to me. I was just being a good friend. Maybe you should think about this next time you get in a fight.' Exact quotes. Still maintains to common friends and acquaintances that we don't talk anymore because SHE can't stomach ME.

Posts: 1595 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 23890
Member # 23890
Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, July 16th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well if the question had been:
"Who is your problem?" that'd been easier!

It is women like this that give the rest of us potty mouths!

"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4432 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
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