Oh (((((confused4323))))))
I'm so sorry you have to be here, but I'm glad you found us.
something you said:
He confirmed everything she had told me.
He wouldn't tell you anything, and then after you talk to OW, he confirms what she said.
I'm sorry to tell you that there is more...there always is. He did the classic WS thing of only admitting to what he has been caught doing. What you don't know, or can't prove, he won't admit to.
Please read the Healing Library for strategies to get your sanity, and personal power back. You will find it up at the left hand corner, in the yellow box.
You don't have to make any decisions right now. Breathe, read, drink water, sleep, learn. When you are ready, you can make decisions as to leave or stay.
One thing you need to establish now, is that your H must stop the A immediately to remain with you. He must send a NC (no contact) letter, and you must approve of what is in it, and be sure it is actually sent.
Do you have all his passwords to all his devices? He needs to hand it all over, so you can establish, in your own mind, that he is not still lying. If he balks, make him walk...for the time being.
Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley