I am floored!!! This is kinda hard to grasp for me or put into words but....
I was out with FWSO at a weekend bbq & ran into a woman I knew 30 or so years ago. We got to talking, you know the reminiscing thing. I knew my son's father( marriage was annulled so I will never refer to him as X anything) had dated her before me. Got it?
What I didn't know was they were engaged when I met him. She was actually planning their wedding Now I had no idea!! I was 19, he was 32. She knew nothing of me - he was that good. I had no idea. I then learned we actually married on the day that was supposed to be their date
She was not mad, she actually thanked me & said she felt bad for me being stuck with him. Well it was only 96 days til I pulled my very young stupid head out of my ass & saw the light. I did get my wonderful DS from the deal & now a great DGD.
So I was the other woman I feel sick, truly sick. I could have lived the rest of my life without knowing.
Oh she has been happily married for 27 years.