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frigidfire86 posted 7/17/2013 16:04 PM

My birthday is Friday. In a previous post I mentioned that he has 24 hour duty that day and couldn't get out of it. Well, today he came home from work and said his 1st sergeant said he would let him switch with someone, but he has to find someone who is willing. Chances are slim that anyone would be willing to work overnight on a Friday, but it doesn't hurt to ask. I asked him if he had talked to anyone yet and, if so, what they're answers were. He said he was way too busy dealing with something that was recently dropped in his lap to talk to anyone today. Okay. No problem. That was several hours ago. About 15 minutes ago he was getting ready for bed and I was just making small talk and asked if he knew what he would be doing at work tomorrow. He said he has no idea, but probably sitting around doing nothing, like today. Reallly?! I thought he was insanely busy today? So busy he couldn't even try to switch duty with anyone? Huh. Guess he just doesn't want to be home with me on my birthday. He seriously is a horrible liar. Can't even keep his story straight for a few hours.

(And yes, he really does have duty that day. I checked.)

[This message edited by frigidfire86 at 4:04 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]

1Faith posted 7/17/2013 16:21 PM

Call him on it. Tell him his stories don't match and it hurts that he's made no real effort to be with you on your birthday. Don't suffer on silence.

Happy early birthday. Make it great for yourself even if he isn't there. Treat yourself.

Hugs

frigidfire86 posted 7/17/2013 16:28 PM

Honestly, I have no desire to call him on it. I don't really know why, but it didn't piss me off or anything. I just found it kind of amusing that he even bothered trying to lie. He REALLY sucks at it, something I have told him repeatedly. I'm feeling pretty detached/distant lately. Hopefully my new IC can help. What kind of help I'm looking for, I'm not sure.

[This message edited by frigidfire86 at 4:30 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]

frigidfire86 posted 7/18/2013 14:32 PM

So...he came home from work today and said that he will be home tomorrow afternoon. He managed to find someone to switch with him. I am confused. Why did he lie yesterday and say he was too busy to ask anyone? What was the point if he was still going to try to switch duty? It doesn't make any sense to me. I was looking forward to having the day to myself, especially since he seemed so uninterested in being here. Our daughter is going to daycare in the morning and I am picking her up in the afternoon. The rest of the day I planned on going to the park with her, getting some ice cream, and coming back to veg out. He makes no sense. Ugh.