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hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 11:52 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
I was dating a wonderful man for about a year. I've been single now for almost 20 days. We broke up because I moved 1500 miles away and neither of us wanted to do teh Long Distance thing.
As much as it sucks and I hurt, it's nothing compared to my divorce. I don't know if it's just difference of not having intertwined lives (a 1 year relationship is different than unwinding a 8 year marriage) or just that I have better tools and skills in healing and directing my hurt. It's probably also a little easier because there isn't an element of rejection - we broke up because we physically weren't in the same place.
Still, it sucks.
But today, a cute guy carried a box for me (offered without my even asking), so I guess I still have it a bit... 
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
juliette ( member #9635) posted at 11:54 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
(((((hurtbs))))) so sorry for this.
Me : BS - 40
Have a son (Romeo) - 14 years
Well this April's Fools Day joke sucked big time.
burnt_toast ( member #16891) posted at 11:55 PM on Wednesday, July 17th, 2013
(((hurtbs)))
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I juste left my SO of almost 5 years. Abandonment and betrayal are two very deep wounds that are not present this time. And yes, I beleive you do have more tools than you had initially.
I may have not gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be.
- Douglas Adams
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:03 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
(((hurtbs)))
I'm so sorry. Sending you strength and hope the coming weeks bring happiness.
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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:11 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
I'm sorry things didn't work out for you two, hurtbs. ((((hugs))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
hurtbs (original poster member #10866) posted at 12:16 AM on Thursday, July 18th, 2013
It's really okay. I'm sad, but it's not that devastated, my whole world is shattered feeling. I feel pretty hopeful about the future....
What really sucks, though, is that I have mono 
so I can't take care of myself y eating right and exercising (just ate normally today for the first time, no gym), can't do things that are fun as a distraction, can't play with friends... that is kind of sucky... but I feel like I'll be okay.
Doing NC for right now. It's been 19 days since we last spoke, and 17 days since last contact. I told him I needed to do NC for a while to move forward. I can't be "friends" with him, but talking to him wont' help. I fewer urges to text or call about things (you know, inside jokes)... but sometimes I still go to grab the phone... I just text a girlfriend or send an email.
Me - 40 something. WXH DDay 2006, Divorced 2012
WBF DDay #1 9/2022 #2 11/2022
Single
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