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hurtbs posted 7/17/2013 17:52 PM
I was dating a wonderful man for about a year. I've been single now for almost 20 days. We broke up because I moved 1500 miles away and neither of us wanted to do teh Long Distance thing.
As much as it sucks and I hurt, it's nothing compared to my divorce. I don't know if it's just difference of not having intertwined lives (a 1 year relationship is different than unwinding a 8 year marriage) or just that I have better tools and skills in healing and directing my hurt. It's probably also a little easier because there isn't an element of rejection - we broke up because we physically weren't in the same place.
Still, it sucks.
But today, a cute guy carried a box for me (offered without my even asking), so I guess I still have it a bit... 
juliette posted 7/17/2013 17:54 PM
(((((hurtbs))))) so sorry for this.
burnt_toast posted 7/17/2013 17:55 PM
(((hurtbs)))
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I juste left my SO of almost 5 years. Abandonment and betrayal are two very deep wounds that are not present this time. And yes, I beleive you do have more tools than you had initially.
jo2love posted 7/17/2013 18:03 PM
(((hurtbs)))
I'm so sorry. Sending you strength and hope the coming weeks bring happiness.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:13 PM, July 17th (Wednesday)]
nowiknow23 posted 7/17/2013 18:11 PM
I'm sorry things didn't work out for you two, hurtbs. ((((hugs))))
hurtbs posted 7/17/2013 18:16 PM
It's really okay. I'm sad, but it's not that devastated, my whole world is shattered feeling. I feel pretty hopeful about the future....
What really sucks, though, is that I have mono 
so I can't take care of myself y eating right and exercising (just ate normally today for the first time, no gym), can't do things that are fun as a distraction, can't play with friends... that is kind of sucky... but I feel like I'll be okay.
Doing NC for right now. It's been 19 days since we last spoke, and 17 days since last contact. I told him I needed to do NC for a while to move forward. I can't be "friends" with him, but talking to him wont' help. I fewer urges to text or call about things (you know, inside jokes)... but sometimes I still go to grab the phone... I just text a girlfriend or send an email.