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Woah I just triggered in a MAJOR way. BF was showing me some pictures of his latest project on his phone and he flipped to his thumbnail view. I caught a glimpse if what looked like someone in pink bottoms in a picture that looked like it could be a topless/underwear bathroom selfie. I said "what's that" and grabbed the phone to look. Seriously crazy freak out moment.

It was his niece wearing a pink skirt and white top taken at a distance. She's four.

Holy fuck I literally had a panic attack.

He handled it well, I explained and apologized, we're over it. But fuck that sucked.

Don't freak out! I think that was a normal reaction! I think a lot of us might have had a similar reaction had we gotten a glimpse of what you did...or done worse and snuck his phone ...

Just breathe. I'm glad you both talked about it and I think if he knows about all you have been through....he will understand. Especially since you were sincerely apologetic! Communication is key!!

It was his niece wearing a pink skirt and white top taken at a distance. She's four.

Oh honey. I shouldn't laugh but that mad me laaarf.

It still fucking sucks though. Damn.

See? This is what the traumatized mind does! As sad as this experience is, what's sadder is that if this were my ex that really would have been a bathroom selfie of a college co-ed.

(((chikastuff)))

It's such a horrible and powerful feeling...I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

I too have had a panic attack triggered by a trigger.