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nowiknow23 posted 7/18/2013 11:35 AM

As most of you know, my DD14 is in a residential treatment program for mental health and behavior issues. Part of her treatment program includes a weekly family therapy session that she, wasband, and I all attend together each Thursday morning.

Halfway through this morning's session, I noticed (with some annoyance) that wasband was gesturing with his hands - a LOT more than usual. And then I noticed something shiny on his hand. On his LEFT hand - ring finger.

Wasband is wearing a shiny new band on his ring finger.

Initial reaction - Whu?

Second reaction -

Subsequent reactions ever since -

Oh. Em. Gee. I think he eloped over the weekend. I think he got married to his girlfriend of 4 months (who is NOT an OW, obviously).

And then? This ad wizard shows up to his daughter's therapy session wearing the wedding ring BUT DOESN'T MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT IT!

The hell, people?

Now, I've got nothing against her. Truly. In fact, she's an awful lot like me, right down to political leanings and causes she champions. We have friends in common, although we have never met. And she has two teenagers the same age as ours and the same genders. Seriously. It's a bit spooky, really.

I'm pretty sure he just married me and the kids version 2.0. And all I can do is laugh.

DeadMumWalking posted 7/18/2013 11:48 AM

DAFUUUUUQQQ???

Yeah, you weren't any good, so he had to go out and find......another (inferior) version ..... of YOU!

Karma baby, karma. Sit back, open the popcorn and ENJOY!!

Lyonesse posted 7/18/2013 11:57 AM

I think he got married to his girlfriend of 4 months
4 months??? I guess if she was NIK 2.0 he didn't really need to take time to get to know her - he just checked off the boxes. Wow - relationship master.

I can't really think of newbie wife as 2.0, as that would imply "improved". I can't imagine all of your awesomeness could be improved on. It's more like a knock-off version of the real thing.

Glad you can laugh at this. I hope DD is doing well. Has it been a month already?

nowiknow23 posted 7/18/2013 12:06 PM

She's been there about 6 weeks, Lyonesse. And she's doing fairly well. Or at least, she had been.

I'm concerned about how she'll react once she notices the ring. Seriously, who gets married without telling their kids????

JAMFs with ninja-level compartmentalization skills, that's who.

ButterflyGirl posted 7/18/2013 12:06 PM

I'm thinking after you got away from the lying cheat, YOU became NIK 2.0.

This chick sounds like NIK 0.0003. Just wait till she gets to know him better..

nowiknow23 posted 7/18/2013 12:07 PM

Also? DS19 has never met the woman. NOT ONCE. The. Hell.

nutmegkitty posted 7/18/2013 12:08 PM


Lyonesse posted 7/18/2013 12:12 PM

I'm glad DD's doing OK. I know the settling in was hard for her.

Is it possible to contact the family counselor outside of the session and raise this concern? If it's true, maybe it is better for DD to find out while in the program, so they can offer her additional support?

I don't have experience with this, but I get your concern. And I did have a JAMF with ninja-level compartmentalization skills for a father, so I know how rough that can be.

(nik & dd)

Though I did when I first read this. With a hearty helping of

Amazonia posted 7/18/2013 12:15 PM

Sorry, but NIK anything.0 would be smarter than to get married after 4 months.

She may have some interests in common, but she will never be as great as you, NIK!

Threnody posted 7/18/2013 12:18 PM

I guess if she was NIK 2.0 he didn't really need to take time to get to know her - he just checked off the boxes. Wow - relationship master.

Achievement unlocked!

IrishLass518 posted 7/18/2013 12:29 PM

Shaking head and already knowing where this will end up going. I will pop the corn you guys all pick the appropriate beverages

nowiknow23 posted 7/18/2013 12:35 PM

Achievement unlocked!

Lola2kids posted 7/18/2013 12:38 PM

Holy crap, NIK!!

I'm so glad you can laugh about this.
What a colossal douche.

(um, Achievement unlocked??? is that a video game reference?)

Sad in AZ posted 7/18/2013 12:43 PM

He might not be...Way back when, right after we separated and I was still going back & forth to the marital home, I noticed the X was wearing a band. It was on his pinky, but it was unmistakably a cheap wedding band.

I questioned him about it rather vigorously and he finally admitted the OW bought it for him. I guess she was marking her territory...she should have just peed on him.

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 12:45 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]

ajsmom posted 7/18/2013 12:43 PM

I'm taking the under.

The Commish

tesla posted 7/18/2013 14:21 PM


What an idiot.

dmari posted 7/18/2013 14:24 PM


The similarities are eery. Weird. But she is definitely not NIK and kids 2.0 ... more like NIK and kids -2.0 (that a big fat negative).

nowiknow23 posted 7/18/2013 15:17 PM

Aww... truly love you guys.

Is it possible to contact the family counselor outside of the session and raise this concern? If it's true, maybe it is better for DD to find out while in the program, so they can offer her additional support?
I'm waiting for a callback from the therapist on a different issue. Debating whether to bring this up with her, since I don't know ANYTHING for a fact - just observed the ring.

IDK whether to address it with him first, talk to the counselor anyway, or just sit back and let things play out?

Sad in AZ posted 7/18/2013 17:40 PM

Definitely ask the therapist the 'What if...' question. He/she should be on alert if this becomes an issue with DD and can advise you of the options on how to proceed.

uncertainone posted 7/18/2013 17:52 PM

Oh. Em. Gee. I think he eloped over the weekend. I think he got married to his girlfriend of 4 months (who is NOT an OW, obviously).

Oh God, I'd think I won the lottery. 4 months sounds about right. Any longer and there would be little chance of sticking around sans chloroform.

Is your daughter close to her dad? Sorry, don't know your story well. If so I agree support when told. Would part deux be included in sessions or is it just parents?

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