H does not know that I still check his call log. I hadnít been checking for a long time but there was an incident with OW last month that set me off.
Yesterday, I found that he spent all day texting another girl (not OW) beginning at 11pm on Sunday and continuing until I got home at 6pm on Monday. There was a few hours break after 2am (sleeping, I assume). H was out Sunday night and got home at 1am. He works from home so I know he was there on Monday. From some sleuthing, I know who it is and I know this is her number but the texts have all been deleted from his phone.
Typically, I can never sit on something I discover and confront him immediately; however, this time I have sat back trying to decide what I should do. I donít think he is involved in an A. But, I do think that itís inappropriate contact. We have spoken about this particular girl texting him several months ago and he agreed that it would stop (which it did); however, here we are againÖ
I feel like itís a validation & ego stroking issue with him. However, I was completely blindsided by his previous A so how can I really be sure more isnít going on? Why delete the texts if they were innocent?
Itís been 4 years since his A. So much about our life is different (better). We are married now. We bought a home. He says that he is happy. If I confront him about the deleting, he will know that I still have trust issues.
I just donít know what I should do.
[This message edited by Tesa at 3:00 PM, July 18th (Thursday)]