Topic: I finally had my moment!!!!
Member # 32838
| Posted: 7:29 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
My son got married this weekend. There was a lot of anxiety over me seeing my XH with OW. She didn't come. She said she would be uncomfortable....hahaha...duh!
My dil and I are coming off the elevator...there is a man standing to get on. He said "hi"...we said "hi' and walked on. When we got to the parking lot my dil asked if I felt awkward...I said why?? She said that was XH...holy crap I didn't even recognize him!!! All gray and old looking :)
Next we go to pictures...I sought out ex and told him I didn't recognize him or I would have visited...we made comfortable small talk about the kids and grand daughter.
At the wedding...XH sat by himself...I sat with my SO. At the reception...XH stood in the back...Me, SO, family and friends have a great time dancing and playing around.
Next day I get an email from XH...says he had a "WOW" moment...said I have never, ever looked happier and he just knows he has never made me that happy. He was glad to see me.
That my friends is VINDICATION....yes I looked happy...yes I had on a smoking hot black dress...yes I am fun. Sad moment for him.
I almost feel sorry...I had my wow moment over 5 years ago when I caught him with her. Sucks to be him right now!
"If we knew each others secrets, what comforts we should find." John Churton Collins
Him: MLC to the extreme (howorker)
M 25 years high school sweets
2sons 25 and 27, one grand daughter.
Posts: 33 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: South Dakota
Member # 21925
| Posted: 7:45 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
BS 43 (me)
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
Posts: 1034 | Registered: Dec 2008
Member # 10310
| Posted: 7:59 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
That's the best revenge of all: happiness. Nothing drives people crazier than seeing someone have a good life
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
Posts: 3665 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
Member # 10866
| Posted: 8:01 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
Awesome! I love reading posts like this!!
Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
Posts: 15606 | Registered: Jun 2006
Member # 38458
| Posted: 8:06 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
Dang! That is a heck of a downhill slide if he is unrecognizable just 5 years later!
Yay on having your moment! How much better off he would have been if he wasn't such a sad POS who ruined all of his blessings!
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
Posts: 541 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA
Member # 26152
| Posted: 8:15 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
Sucks to be him!!
Me --> BS
Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
Member # 26928
| Posted: 8:18 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
Love it, Hot Mama!!!
Me - 45
DD(24), DS(21, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
Posts: 9959 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here and There
Member # 31528
| Posted: 8:18 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
That rocks, rn! Love it.
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Posts: 50400 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 27457
| Posted: 9:10 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
That's freakin awesome! You go girl!!! I hope I have a moment like this one day!!!
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Posts: 2767 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 34146
| Posted: 9:29 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
Great post -- and congrats to your son!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Posts: 4423 | Registered: Dec 2011
Member # 9454
| Posted: 11:37 PM, July 18th (Thursday), 2013|
WoW glad you had that moment...I had mine several months back when I had to deliver a message to the ex...He looked so bad and could hardly stand up straight...
I thought if he lives to see his next birthday that would surprise me...Well, he had his birthday on the 4th and I think he is still around..
Congrats on your moment and too new Beginnings.....
Posts: 408 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: The Tarheel State, in the mts.
Member # 20150
| Posted: 12:31 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013|
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Posts: 20638 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
|Sad in AZ|
Member # 24239
| Posted: 5:32 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013|
Congratulations on your son's wedding and your moment!! It's such a good feeling
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Posts: 25300 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Arizona
Member # 32729
| Posted: 8:08 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013|
This is the best thing I have read all day!
He was unrecognizable after just 5 years? hahaha.
It is amazing. The opposite of love is indifference - you are totally there and loving YOUR life completely!
Awesome, I'm glad you had a great time and you had a moment! Keep living it girl
Me: fBW 31
DDays: May 31 2011 & Aug 6 2011. Divorced November 14, 2011 (No Kids)
Posts: 282 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: New York City
Member # 22934
| Posted: 10:14 AM, July 19th (Friday), 2013|
Oh your story gives me such hope!
This is EXACTLY what I'm wishing for when I run into my XH and OW in October when I attend my step son's wedding with my SO.
"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle
Posts: 1200 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Metro Atlanta
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