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How do you know if your next relationship is on the rebound from ex?

Do you mean if you're not ready to date so he's your rebound relationship OR that he's not ready to date so you're the rebound relationship?

Here's a good article: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/rebound-relationships-in-a-nutshell-transitionals-buffers-why-you-should-step-away-from-the-light-when-theyre-not-over-their-ex/

Search "rebound relationship" on baggagereclaim.com and there are quite a few.

Btw I am familiar with this because I dated a guy for 8 months only divorced for 5 months when we met. Great guy but the article was on point - it was just too soon for him. So it's good you're interested in learning more about it if you have any concern.

Ah crap....

Think I've just read an article written entirely about me!

Thanks Persevere.

Took me a long time to recognize theat I was a "transitional" but my behaviours with now exSO look almost carbon copied.

I split up with her just over 2 weeks ago now but I just couldn't comit to her as although I'm over being with my exWW I'm not over the life I had with her and still miss/dream/compare/ask mutual friends about/still talk about her.....

I've bought a puppy now so I won't be looking to be a transitional with anyone again. Hopefully ill stay strong enough to stay single!

Awesome article!

Im afraid I might be terminally unavailable. Im 0/2 with picking WH. 3 years of IC, 6 years post dday. As I approach D and think about dipping my toe in the dating pool, Im concerned. I want a companion, someone to do stuff with, but I don't want to get married again.

How do you know when you are ready? And if not, how do you know what you need to work on?