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Sue1964 posted 7/18/2013 21:21 PM

How do you know if your next relationship is on the rebound from ex?

phmh posted 7/18/2013 21:27 PM

Do you mean if you're not ready to date so he's your rebound relationship OR that he's not ready to date so you're the rebound relationship?

persevere posted 7/18/2013 22:59 PM

Here's a good article: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/rebound-relationships-in-a-nutshell-transitionals-buffers-why-you-should-step-away-from-the-light-when-theyre-not-over-their-ex/

Search "rebound relationship" on baggagereclaim.com and there are quite a few.

persevere posted 7/19/2013 00:35 AM

Btw I am familiar with this because I dated a guy for 8 months only divorced for 5 months when we met. Great guy but the article was on point - it was just too soon for him. So it's good you're interested in learning more about it if you have any concern.

foreverempty posted 7/19/2013 01:56 AM

Ah crap....

Think I've just read an article written entirely about me!

Thanks Persevere.

Took me a long time to recognize theat I was a "transitional" but my behaviours with now exSO look almost carbon copied.

I split up with her just over 2 weeks ago now but I just couldn't comit to her as although I'm over being with my exWW I'm not over the life I had with her and still miss/dream/compare/ask mutual friends about/still talk about her.....

I've bought a puppy now so I won't be looking to be a transitional with anyone again. Hopefully ill stay strong enough to stay single!

newnormal posted 7/19/2013 07:54 AM

Awesome article!

Im afraid I might be terminally unavailable. Im 0/2 with picking WH. 3 years of IC, 6 years post dday. As I approach D and think about dipping my toe in the dating pool, Im concerned. I want a companion, someone to do stuff with, but I don't want to get married again.

How do you know when you are ready? And if not, how do you know what you need to work on?