When another woman takes your husband, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to LET HER HAVE the worthless bum. OC born 2001 Divorced 2003 Remarried 2008 (New Guy)
Listen. Knowledge is power. Take some long, deep breaths, wipe your eyes and nose, and look up at the upper left corner for a yellow box. Take another deep, long breath. Click on The Healing Library. Get yourself a glass of water or other non-alcoholic drink and start reading. There is a lot of very good information there for you, that was written by people who have stood in your shoes and have survived. Even thrived. And you WILL survive this too. Read any other post in this forum that has a bulls-eye next to it. More good information.
And remember this and take it to heart. You cannot, CANNOT, take care of your beautiful children if you DO NOT take care of yourself. You simply cannot do it and you are the only sane person in your house right now, to make sure that they are cared for. You need to stay hydrated, eat whatever you can, and rest when you can. You need to place your needs, and then the needs of your children as a priority and your WH can take care of himself. He's an adult that has tried to fire you as his wife. You owe him no care at this point. You owe it to yourself and your children to focus on you and them.
Please keep coming back for support. As you're able, post a bit more of your details. I guarantee that there will be several people here who have stood right next to you, in your details. We're all here for you. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
You will receive excellent advice here from people who are truly compassionate - because we've all been through it or are going through it.
Know this - no matter which direction you ultimately decide to go, you will find strengths that you never knew you had or could have had.
Know this also - you will be ok.
Sorry you are here but on S.I. you are never alone because there's always someone to listen and reply. We are a family who have walked your path and know the feelings of aloneness and fear. Lean on us in your despair.
Despite your current situation you will survive this and we can help you. Read the Healing Library, upper left, yellow box. There's great resources there. When you feel strong enough, post your story if you can. With details many of us can respond to your particular situation.
There's not a lot we haven't heard here so take courage. We might be cyber but we are real people who log in to support those who are faced with our own experiences.
You will get through this. Take care of yourself.
(((Nightfairy)))
I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)
Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!
Hope you are better than last night.
This will pass and you will survive, no matter the outcome.
Take care of yourself.
