What you have to guard against is projecting your thoughts onto him.I had to accept that he is not having warm fuzzy thoughts about our M and any regrets.
As a self preservation measure they change history and say the marriage wasn't good for years or even the whole thing was a mistake.
It took me about 8 years to accept that he doesn't love me any more and now just hates me because of spousal support. Any thoughts that he has regrets were conjured up in my mind only.
He's already proven that nothing will hold him back if he really wants it, no matter the consequences. If he wanted to come back, he would've long ago.
[This message edited by Pippy at 5:31 AM, July 20th (Saturday)]