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petite71 posted 7/19/2013 14:51 PM

I have a question...Would you all be mad if your H stayed friends with a womanizer & a person who found a prostitute on craigslist??? He's married by the way. His W found out because she was working with the cops & he got busted. This was before my H had the A.
My H says he has been his friend since High School & he only talks to him on the phone. He told my H recently that I been keeping him on a short leash for over a year now. When my H told me that I said well he is not a friend of the marriage,so he needs to be out of our lives. My H says
that he doesn't see why he should have to,because AGAIN they only talk on the phone once in awhile. Wouldn't you all be pissed off?

cancuncrushed posted 7/19/2013 14:58 PM

I would be and am at times. My H was still in contact with several college friends. Some were active cheaters. ANd they did try to talk him into hanging out. It never went over well for our marriage. He went twice. Now I shudder to think what they did. It has been years, but those cheaters have failed marriages.

petite71 posted 7/19/2013 14:59 PM

Make it clear as she... I mean the prostitute was working for the cops.

petite71 posted 7/19/2013 15:01 PM

I guess my H's BFF is more important than his W & M
That's how I feel.

Skan posted 7/19/2013 16:52 PM

only talk on the phone once in awhile

Oh, then it's OK! I guess that it's OK to keep in touch with the local drug dealer, as long as its only once in a while. To go out and bang someone as long as its only once in a while. To drive drunk as long as its only once in a while. I mean, heck, it's not like it's every day after all!

petite71 posted 7/19/2013 18:56 PM

Skan:I know...RIGHT!!! He looked at me like I was so ridiculous.

staying hopefull posted 7/19/2013 19:04 PM

you know the saying...birds of a feather, flock together..

petite71 posted 7/20/2013 07:58 AM

LOL!!! I tell him that when we talk about his friendship. He is speechless after I tell him that truthful phrase.

womaninflux posted 7/20/2013 18:50 PM

I definitely have misgivings of my H remaining friends with friends of his who cheat on their wives. I also don't like the friends who knew about the A. But in the end, you can't control ANYTHING. A therapist would say it's not healthy to the R process to be around people who are unsupportive of your relationship. But again, you can't control anything.

petite71 posted 7/20/2013 19:28 PM

I hear ya womaninflux. My H needs to find a new BFF. I been worried about fixing him & not myself. He had the E/P LTA & needs to also stop rug sweeping.
Time to worry about me.