Our first anniversary was 7 months after dday, It was our 20th.
We were in R, nowhere near healed....but we still celebrated us.
We got married young, had kids and walked into the life unknown with little/no experience.
We have had great moments of team work and togetherness and we have had moments where we have failed one another. His A was a huge failure, but it didn't mean our M was.
We did what I believe married people are supposed to do.(with 2 willing people...some people need to S/D and that is for them to decide) We fought to get back on track.He fought hard and worked at fixing himself. We went through pain and heartache, healing and little victories along the way.
So we celebrate our Anniversary, because we are every piece of our M. The good, the bad, the happy and the broken. It's our story and because there are some painful chapters in the book doesn't mean it isn't still a great story....
You have to do what works for you, but IMO giving your H the gift of continuing your story seems good enough reason to celebrate.