It doesn't sound healthy to me. The 2 top reasons for talking about ow in this way that jump to the top of my mind are 1) the A is still ongoing and he thinks his talk will keep you in the dark, and 2) he's focusing on ow in order to avoid taking responsibility for what he's done. If he's not in IC, maybe he should be.
IC - not because something's wrong with him, but because he needs someone to help him sort out all the conflicting thoughts he has to deal with and to confront some of that thinking.
Taking responsibility - not to beat himself up, but to recognize the damage he's done to himself and his relationships.