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ThoughtIKnewYa posted 7/20/2013 11:45 AM

My little sister is 37 years old, so there's not a thing I can do about this.

She has a history of dating HORRIBLE men. She's diagnosed Borderline with Narcissistic tendencies.

I was talking to my dad last night and he said that he had taken her to "Mental Health" the previous night because she felt like her meds weren't working. This behavior usually has something to do with a male, so I asked if there was anyone in her life...

Dad: "She's seeing someone. He lives next door to her."
Me: "Is he married?"
Dad: "No. Not married, no kids."
Me: "OK. Does he have a job?"
Dad: "Yes, he's had the same job for twelve years, owns his house outright, cars are all paid off."
Me: "OK. Well, so far, he seems totally different than the guys she usually chooses. What's the catch?"
Dad: "Welllllll, his last girlfriend is still missing."
Me: "OK. Did she go missing under suspicious circumstances?"
Dad: "Your sister says she was crazy and burned her house to the ground, but they didn't find a body in there, so she wasn't in there, but they HAVE questioned this guy pretty seriously."

She's going to get herself killed. And there's not a THING I can do about it.

Crushed1 posted 7/20/2013 12:27 PM

very, very scary! I hope your sister will be safe.

karmahappens posted 7/20/2013 12:40 PM

Oh gosh. The hardest feelings to deal with ...the "I can't do anything"

Prayers for her and hope she can get away from this possible dangerous situation.

jrc1963 posted 7/20/2013 13:18 PM

Oh wow!

I will pray she turns herself around somehow and gets away from this guy.

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 7/20/2013 15:16 PM

My sister is NOT right! She won't try to get away from him, but she WILL push him, at some point, and that's what scares me.

I reserved comment with my dad last night, but I am prepared and sure of how I feel today. He can never be around my child. Period. I don't want to see my sister again until I see her making choices that are respectful to herself and those closest to her.

So, see, now I'm just going to be a big ole mean B, like I was when she had a methhead boyfriend I called 'Sparky' because he set himself on fire a few times and I wouldn't allow him anywhere near me or my child either. The whole family felt sorry for her. And I'm just a bitch. It's always lose-lose when dealing with someone with a PD.