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I haven't received any mail. What can I do?

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 dmari (original poster member #37215) posted at 4:17 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

I haven't received ANY mail in the past few days. This has never happened before. How can I check to see if stbx did an address change without my consent or knowledge? I checked the USPS website but can't find an answer to my question. Has this happened to anyone? Thank you!

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:18 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

Call the post office, or better yet go down there in person, and talk to the postmaster. My STBX has done this a couple times.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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 dmari (original poster member #37215) posted at 4:41 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

NG ... you are such a sweetie pie! I just read your post and having to deal with your stbx's lunacy and yet you still were so kind to give me advice. Thank you very much! I guess on Monday I will go down to the post office.

Did you stop getting mail and guessed that your stbx submitted a change of address? I truly truly hope that this is a fluke but my stbx has a track record of passive aggressive assholeness.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:51 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

Yes, the mail stopped coming. BTW, the postmaster doesn't always say why the mail has stopped coming when I ask. They're cagey sometimes. But always after I call or go down there the mail resumes. I keep asking if I need to fill out a form to let them know who lives here but they say it's not necessary.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 5:21 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

Mail can be held at post office without confirmation. Address changes always have the post office sending confirmation letter of the change. Just in case of identity theft.

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 dmari (original poster member #37215) posted at 5:26 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

@wontdefineme: confirmation to deter identity theft makes sense. I will look into mail being "held". Thank you!

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:27 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

Oh wow, I've never asked if the mail is being held. I must do that Monday.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:48 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

Mail holds can actually be placed online. Without verification of who is placing them. My XH did this to me three times, and my post office wouldn't so much as apologize when I talked to them about it. I finally threatened him with court action for harassment and he stopped. (Empty threat, but he's too dumb to know that.)

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 1:42 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013

My XWH#1 refused to put in a change of address and insisted I give him his mail. This was just another way he tried to control me and make me have contact with him. After a while I quit receiving anything of importance, but I still get junk mail (10yrs later). It pisses my WH#2 off but he knows I can't stop it from coming. I now just throw it in the trash but it's still irritating. I tried writing on it "no longer at this address" and I have spoken with the post office and they said until he put in a change of address there was nothing they can do. No wonder they are going out of business.

XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"

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