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changedforlife (original poster member #38474) posted at 5:45 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Hi everyone! I am new to this forum but I fear this may be my new reality.
Are there any posts that would be good for a newbie to read?
Thanks!
Me - BS Him - WH (in our 50's)Together 31 years/ 1 teenager1st D-day - Jan 24/13 #? d-days from broken no contact and continued infidelity for several years. Attempted reconciliation.July 28/23 told him it was over and he wa
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 7:00 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
I can say welcome. This is a good, strong group of people.
As for threads, if you haven't checked the Healing Library yet, do that for sure.
If you have specific questions, feel free to ask.
No Contact is a pretty good rule of thumb. And protect yourself, financially and emotionally. It is a roller coaster, but there is an end in sight.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:49 AM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Depending on whether there is abuse in your situation, or if you're going to have to "flee in the night" to get away, there is a good thread down in IT called Lets start a safety thread or something like that.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 7:36 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Hi CFL,
I wish I'd found this on my DD. Sorry that you are here.
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=469167
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 8:09 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Hello, and welcome. There are some extremely fabulous people here with great advice. They will not only support you, but I've found they will be straightforward and hit you with a gentle 2 x 4 when needed..
Anything that you are struggling with, post it and I'm sure you will receive some great advice.
If you want to rage at your spouse, post it here instead.
My best advice is this. If you truly believe that this is over, there is no need to discuss the infidelity anymore. You don't have to explain again why this is happening. Try to make your communications with him as business like as possible, and pretend you are dealing with an incompetent co-worker. If you find you are playing a blame game, don't play it with him. Take your ball and go home.
DO NOT engage with him about the affair any longer. Kids and finances only!!
Focus on you. Do what is best for you. Big hugs!!
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