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changedforlife
♀ 38474
Member # 38474

Posted: 11:45 PM, July 20th (Saturday), 2013

Hi everyone! I am new to this forum but I fear this may be my new reality.

Are there any posts that would be good for a newbie to read?

Thanks!

Me - BS Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 23 years/ 1 young child
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6 Continued Contact up to July 16
D-Day again -July 19/13 FALSE R!
D-DAY #?- Dec 17/14 broken NC for 6 months a

Posts: 164 | Registered: Feb 2013

caregiver9000
♀ 28622
Member # 28622

Posted: 1:00 AM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013

I can say welcome. This is a good, strong group of people.

As for threads, if you haven't checked the Healing Library yet, do that for sure.

If you have specific questions, feel free to ask.

No Contact is a pretty good rule of thumb. And protect yourself, financially and emotionally. It is a roller coaster, but there is an end in sight.

Me: 45, independent, happy, despite parallel parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 15 DS 12
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 7051 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place

Amazonia
♀ 32810
Member # 32810

Posted: 5:49 AM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013

Depending on whether there is abuse in your situation, or if you're going to have to "flee in the night" to get away, there is a good thread down in IT called Lets start a safety thread or something like that.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 14440 | Registered: Jul 2011

Vulcanized
♀ 33523
Member # 33523

Posted: 1:36 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013

Hi CFL,

I wish I'd found this on my DD. Sorry that you are here.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=469167

Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now: happy in life, happily in love with the RIGHT man -----> Everything is as it should be

Posts: 940 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: The Hostile City

ButterflyGirl
♀ 38377
Member # 38377

Posted: 2:09 PM, July 21st (Sunday), 2013

Hello, and welcome. There are some extremely fabulous people here with great advice. They will not only support you, but I've found they will be straightforward and hit you with a gentle 2 x 4 when needed..

Anything that you are struggling with, post it and I'm sure you will receive some great advice.

If you want to rage at your spouse, post it here instead.

My best advice is this. If you truly believe that this is over, there is no need to discuss the infidelity anymore. You don't have to explain again why this is happening. Try to make your communications with him as business like as possible, and pretend you are dealing with an incompetent co-worker. If you find you are playing a blame game, don't play it with him. Take your ball and go home.

DO NOT engage with him about the affair any longer. Kids and finances only!!

Focus on you. Do what is best for you. Big hugs!!

xBW~ 37
Two DS~ 9 and 13

Posts: 3120 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: USA

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