We're planning to move out of the area soon. My triggers are one of the reasons. Whenever we go to the new area I feel far more peace than I do when I'm in my own area.
My sister's ex had an affair. They moved to another state and her triggers were part of the reason. This was 30 years ago and she's remarried now, yet she recently went back to the area she used to live and said all the pain came flooding back when she was there. The point being, moving away appears to have been good for her. However, that's not to say she couldn't have stayed and eventually gotten over those triggers. I don't know.
Most people in my life are supportive of us moving. They understand how hard it is for me here and feel it will be good . . . a fresh start for us.
On the other hand, I have a friend who says if I move I'm letting the OW rule my life. I'm letting her win. I'm handing her the territory I now live in and moving isn't going to bring me freedom.
Of course I know that I can't run away from my problems. There will always be triggers of some sort, but it just makes sense to me that if I can eliminate a large portion of them, why wouldn't I?
I'd like to hear from other people who have moved and wonder how much it helped or did not help in getting over the pain, getting on with your life and ultimately feeling more peace. Or did you feel like you just gave the area where you used to live over to the OW or OM and let them rule your life?
I'd also like to hear from those who did not move and your thoughts about staying.
Thanks for your input.