I started this weekend with joy and hope. I spent last Wednesday in sincere discussion with the wayward to heal our relationship and reconnect.
We had a lovely Friday evening and started out well Saturday morning. We had to go to her place Saturday afternoon for an errand. I explained to her the desire to know the truth about what had taken place. She gave me the "I want to spare you further pain" talk. I repeated what is said on the forum so frequently about needing the whole truth.
She confessed that the ap was someone she works with, that the relationship was encouraged by her boss, that the relationship was more frequent than she had previously acknowledged and with the sanction and support of the woman who supervises her.
I was numb at first and thought I had not heard anything new to hurt me. Later on Saturday evening, the ex began talking about her son's ex wife who had betrayed him and made snarky comparisons.
After DDay, I had often thought that she chose not to see the similarities and I could no longer stomach the pot calling the kettle black.
I called her on it. She was remorseful and from what I could see, tried to accept what I was saying.
I then began to feel the betrayal by her boss and her collusion with the woman she calls friend.
This woman allowed the ex to use her apartment to pass out from alcohol and then invited the boyfriend over and escorted him to the bedroom where the ex was passed out.
The boss was host to lots of "happy hour" escapades inviting the ex and her maintenance man boyfriend to join her and her boyfriend.
I am devastated. I thought the ex had meet someone through work, not AT work. The involvement of the boss is equally devastating. I had trusted and liked this woman prior to the split with the ex. I realized soon afterward that the supervisor was no friend of mine and stated it to the wayward.
I had sex with the ex on Saturday morning (hysterical bonding). I didn't think to ask if she had used protection. She hadn't. She has been tested (so she says), but it's only been about 6 weeks since she stopped seeing the boyfriend.
She put me at risk without thinking twice. She still has to work with the man she had the affair with. The supervisor protects him and has kept him on despite behavior that should have had him fired.
I am so angry, sad and upset I could crawl into a hole and die. I had ordered an engagement ring online Friday. If she had been more forthcoming, the previous Wednesday, I would probably not have done what I did.
There's lots more to the story, but I'll close and hope someone has the patience to read and respond. I need the support. Thanks.
[This message edited by phoenixrivers at 10:13 AM, July 21st (Sunday)]