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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Received this text last night:
What time you plan on picking Teslet up?
The same time I pick him up after every visitation: Sunday at 6...moron.
Me: 6
***crickets***
This morning at 6:30 a.m.
It's my grandmas birthday tomorrow and I'd really like teslet to be there but it's going to go a little late. You think I could keep him another night? I'll drop him off with you whenever is good on Monday...???
And do I get any more weeks with him this summer or are we back on weekends?
When does he go back to school. I'll get you his tuition and extra for clothes and soccder, etc out of my next paycheck.
CHECK THE FUCKING GOOGLE CALENDAR!!!! Stop asking me when shit is happening. The shit is listed on the fucking calendar. Stop telling me that you are *going* to give me money and just pay your goddamn part. I haven't gotten a fucking penny from you in the last 7 months unless I've gone through my attorney. Actions, idiot are all that fucking count.
And no. You cannot keep him another night on 12 hours notice. I know you received an invitation to this party in advance. So, that would mean, you take 5 minutes, consult the google fucking calendar, think to yourself, "why ex-shat, grandma's party runs past my visitation time, I should probably arrange with my cold-hearted, suicide-inducing, bitch of an ex-wife to keep Teslet an extra night in advance." Oh, and then you have to actually perform the ACTION!!!! Not good enought to just think it in your head and let your jedi fucking mind powers do the rest.
And stop putting multiple question marks in your texts. They do not count as a 'pretty please with a cherry on top'.
Oh...and no more extra weeks. You have to schedule those by the end of April. Summer is just about over and I have a vacation planned with Teslet. If you would consult the google fucking calendar, you would see, there actually aren't any 'weeks' left. Oh and plus you had to schedule BY THE END OF APRIL!
Fucking hell. How are you so stupid now? Taking illiteracy and entitlement lessons from stripper whore? I do not have to be accomodating of your inability to plan past your next blow job. I am not going to be fooled by you dangling Teslet's tuition in front of me so that you can get an extra night with him. You are required to pay that tuition. Fuck you.
My response:
"I can pick him up at 8:30 tonight (if you like, i can pick him up from a different location if that makes it easier.) But we have stuff going on tomorrow. It's too late to schedule additional summer visitation. Check your guidelines, if I remember correctly, it is to be scheduled before the end of April. School registration is 8 August. Your half of tuition is $X. I will email you the school calendar when I receive it."
I have received crickets from him. No confirmation of pick up time. I'll give him a little longer but then I'm going to have to have a confirmed pick up time. Because I swear to god, if I am at the apt and my son is not there...I will become a crazy woman.
[This message edited by tesla at 9:59 AM, July 21st (Sunday)]
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 4:22 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
It's all a bunch of pathetic, passive aggressive shit but you already knew that. If you don't let Teslet go to his grandma's birthday party or let him have him for another week, you're being mean, never mind the fact that he has access to the paperwork and the calendar. If you say "no", he gets to turn you into the bad guy and that's a lot of fun!
As far as the money thing goes, he probably actually means it when he says it and because of that,, he gets to feel like a pretty great guy. I guess it's sort of like another form of cake; he gets to feel like he is a stand up guy without actually being one.
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 4:25 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Tes, I'll give you a FTG as soon as I stop laughing and clean up the computer screen:
I do not have to be accomodating of your inability to plan past your next blow job.
Nice Rant! Personally I am very impressed that you are currently sane.
F.T.G!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 4:26 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
FTG. 
And yes, you are 100% in the right. IMO, you're being overly gracious in even extending to 8:30 (what time does teslet go to bed?) and going out of your way to meet him somewhere else.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Beyond ( member #3011) posted at 4:30 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Why even write him at all? Can't you just use Jedi mind tricks to communicate?!
Seriously, though...he fired you from the position of administrative assistant. Google Calendar is his new admin. He should get to know her.
Oh, and..."Yay, me! I'm planning to pay Tesla what I OWE HER. I'm a great guy." 
Finally, as you requested:
F.T.G.!!!
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 5:08 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
This is a "You play nice and I'll play nice" text. You let him have Teslet one more night and he will pay what he is obligated too without you having to call the attorney. He is just so sweet
FTG!!!!
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:25 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
How awesome would it be to have three canned responses you could send back to him?
No. Google Calendar.
No. Guidelines.
No. Lawyer.
And for some of the more intense periods of cluelessness, you could combine couple.
No. Guidelines and Lawyer.
Oh - and FTG
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
myperfectlife ( member #39801) posted at 6:07 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
I do not have to be accomodating of your inability to plan past your next blow job
Yeah...FTG. What a Moron.
I cannot be responsible for another's personal growth.
DDay#1 of a "cheatillion" 4/1/13
Divorce final 11/04/13
Coraline ( member #36434) posted at 6:13 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:31 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
What NIK said.
and FTG! Moron. 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 6:41 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
What a fucking moron ASSHOLE!!!!!
Gimme an F!
Gimme a T!
Gimme a G!
What's it spell??
FTG!!!!!!
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 6:46 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
You have the best rants ever!! Thank goodness I wasn't drinking my morning coffee when I read it otherwise it would be all over my computer!!
Oh tesla ... I am so sorry he is such an idiot. He is hoping you will respond in however way you would have responded when you were together. He still wants you to "fix" everything. Hang in there girl!!
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 6:46 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
I forgot to add ...
FTG
FTG
absolutely FTG!
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 6:56 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
FTG. Nothing else needs to be said.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 8:14 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
FTG!!!!
You are amazing Tesla. Screw him and his stupid games.
I agree with NIK.
No. Google calendar.
No. Guidelines.
No. Lawyer.
This asshole does NOT deserve a cookie for doing WHAT HE IS SUPPOSED TO DO.
And I totally get you about hearing what he is *going* to do. I get that all the time. Just fucking do it already!!!
I also get, I was *going* to do it if you just hadn't <xyz>.
FUCK THESE GUYS!!!
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 10:38 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
FTG, big time.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 10:38 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
I texted this guy a few hours ago asking him to please confirm that I am picking Teslet up at 8:30 at either his place or a different location.
I have heard nothing back.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Grace and Flowers ( member #34431) posted at 10:50 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Oh, goody. I have not come to the party too late to say
FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF
TTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT
GGGGGGGGGGGGGG!
I'm sorry he's making things so difficult. I hope things tonight end up ok.
(((((tesla)))))
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:58 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 11:43 PM on Sunday, July 21st, 2013
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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