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eyenight posted 7/21/2013 18:56 PM

I finally sent a text back to Bf. I told him that i was sick of the excuses and he needs to tell exactly what is up. I told him how hes treating me in a way I do not deserve nor tolerate. He isnt treating me like im his girlfriend just a distant stranger, I told him this isnt how a relationship works. I told him I want answers. Because when the lawsuit is over is there going to be more excuses as to why we cant hang out and see eachother. I told him I expect honesty and I dont feel that is he is being totally honest with me and that is a problem, I am a patient person but when I feel like I am on the back burner, I am going to say something.
im guessing I wont hear back from him for a long time. then I have my answer.
He needs to grow balls and say it. I am not going to give him the easy way out. Thats not my style.

devistatedmom posted 7/21/2013 19:49 PM

Good for you, realizing you are worth more than shoddy treatment.

hurtinky posted 7/21/2013 20:21 PM

Don't know why you bothered with the message. Just dump him, no contact, no messages. What could he possibly do or say to make things right? Nothing!

persevere posted 7/21/2013 21:35 PM

Sounds like you are on the right track.

It's disappointing, but better to realize now before you are too deep in.

eyenight posted 7/21/2013 22:51 PM

its done. He and I are over. He tried flipping it like it was my fault for actually saying something. I thought this time a part would do us good. I got a lot of projects going and I thought I could handle it all but I can't you want to much from me. He took no responsibility for it at all. Its my fault.
This is why I never date.
Its totally not my fault. I tried to communicate to him but he cant with me. WoWZer
bring on the tissues. It actually hurts this time.
I know that I am too good for him.

[This message edited by eyenight at 10:54 PM, July 21st (Sunday)]

nowiknow23 posted 7/21/2013 23:09 PM

((((eyenight)))) Sorry you are hurting, honey.

Duffy1958 posted 7/22/2013 00:57 AM

EyeNight-I'm so sorry this asshat broke your heart. Take some time to heal up babe. Try to figure out who you are. Confident women will attract "leeches" & other confident ppl. You can & will attract someone who is a happily, willing partner.

I'm very sorry you are hurting. Stay in touch! Duffy1958

eyenight posted 7/22/2013 01:10 AM

I'm just a little sad. But I'm okay. I don't think bf was that honest with me hr seemed very defensive. My heart of hearts tells me he's lying to me. I looked at his facebook now it's locked down. I shouldn't have to fight for someone who is making me nothing in their life. He put it all on me like its my fault. I did nothing wrong. I know that. It's all him and he can't handle it. It's like he can hang with all his friends all the time but I'm too much to deal with. I guess not ready for me.