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tennispro (original poster new member #39728) posted at 2:13 AM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
I swear this man (WS) is crazy!! He's in another country, "working" but with is OW, trying to blame me for the A...and he has the nerve to text me and tell me to say hello to my father when I go visit my family. Does he really think we're just sweeping this under the rug? What's wrong with this man? Is this common? He wants to live a double life. Does he think I'm a weak fool? I have to get out of this.
Thanks for listening.
[This message edited by tennispro at 8:14 PM, July 21st (Sunday)]
Me: BS 44yo
Him: WS 42yo
Married 11yrs; together 16yr
Kids: 8yo and 3yo
Dday: June 26, 2013
Dday #2: July 22, 2013 - found out same woman and been going on since Dec 2012.
Starting the divorce process. Listing our home. Scared but hopeful.
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 2:43 AM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
Respond: My Dad said you should come say hello in person so he can kick your ass to the curb.
Hugs to you tennispro.
LA
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 3:23 AM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
WOW great response!
Something similar happened when my XWH said he was going to call my parents and tell them stupid stuff about me. I told him YEAH! You go right ahead and go and knock on my father's door and tell him to his face what you have done to our family!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 3:39 AM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
It's madness, isn't it? 
My STBX is the same, he waved at my dad as he drove past the other day. My dad detests him for all he's done to my and our family.
STBX also ran into my parents briefly in the street and said quite breezily 'hi, how are you?!'. My dad just kept walking and my mum just sneered lol.
The arrogance!
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
HereWeGo62 ( member #34766) posted at 1:04 PM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
Respond: My Dad said you should come say hello in person so he can kick your ass to the curb.
I would drop the "to the curb."
If there is reincarnation I hope OM comes back as a low water flush truck stop toilet!
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 2:42 PM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
I do think the general cluelessness is pretty common. My marriage ended in a catastrophically damaging way, and Mr. Trac-Fone still will mildly ask me to send his regards to various family members if any come up in conversation (like when I'm in the position of declining a rare visit with our son with something like, "No, we're going to be at my sister's").
I suppose that some of my nieces and nephews don't know all of the details of the end of our marriage, and might not find it completely bizarre to get a, "Uncle Trac-Fone says hi." But I think even they might find it odd that I would be the one delivering the message.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
1Faith ( member #38975) posted at 3:23 PM on Monday, July 22nd, 2013
It is compartmentalizing to the finest.
He is with OW but can still be a good guy and wish your Dad well.
EGO + JUSTIFICATION for his actions = BS Affair.
I would reply my Dad isn't interested in hearing from the person to promise to love and cherish me but is incapable of doing either.
Good luck. Keep moving.
(((hugs)))
Sometimes my life feels like a test I didn't study for
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