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feelingfoolish posted 7/22/2013 08:20 AM

Won't go into the sorrid details but, found out that my WH has NEVER stopped his A. And now he is telling her he loves her and wants to have a family with her.

I am so sick to my stomach. We were making some progress. Had some setbacks. I'm not completely surprised by this.

Today, I am filing for divorce. It is a sad day for me but, i refuse to let myself be disrespected another second.

Tred posted 7/22/2013 08:23 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this.

i refuse to let myself be disrespected another second

Good for you.

catlover50 posted 7/22/2013 08:24 AM

I am so sorry feelingfoolish. Many hugs to you.

Sometimes there is relief from finally knowing the path to take.

I wish you strength and ultimate happiness.

confused615 posted 7/22/2013 08:31 AM

Stay strong.


tushnurse posted 7/22/2013 08:55 AM

Sending you much strength.

He has shown you who he is, and now you can take some peace in knowing you gave it all you could.

pmal64 posted 7/22/2013 08:57 AM

hugs to you. I am so sorry.

1Faith posted 7/22/2013 09:02 AM

Dear Feeling

I am so sorry that you have found yourself in this place again.

Follow your instincts and do what you need to do to protect yourself and your family.

Sending healing hugs and prayers.

feelingfoolish posted 7/22/2013 09:21 AM

Thank you all of you. I really need strength today. It has been a long past few days.

And to top it off, my mom has to have open heart surgery this week---Yayyy me.

[This message edited by feelingfoolish at 9:23 AM, July 22nd (Monday)]

NoTriangles posted 7/22/2013 09:24 AM

False R is possibly the worst hell ever and I am so sorry you are hurting.

i refuse to let myself be disrespected another second.

Absolutely!! You most certainly deserve better and enough is enough.

Sending you strength and healing energy for your Mom.

naivegirl posted 7/22/2013 11:29 AM

Sending positve vibes to you. I would also mention the facebook hacking to your lawyer when you go to file.

AlwaysBeenStrong posted 7/22/2013 11:36 AM

FF, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Stay strong! I had many other life tribulations, on top of the A...losing family, and furbabies (to me those are my babies), but I still kept my head held high. Good luck and stay strong!!!!

HurtButHopeful? posted 7/22/2013 12:35 PM


Dare2Trust posted 7/22/2013 12:42 PM

I'm so sorry.
I hope your Mom does well with her surgery.


feelingfoolish posted 7/22/2013 13:51 PM

I filed the paperwork with the court. Now, he will have to be served. We still live in the same house.

Tonight, i am going to tell him i would like him to move out. Also, discuss finances and child custody arrangements. Our son is 15, the other is 21 and is in college.

I don't anticipate this going well at all.

Lalagirl posted 7/22/2013 14:07 PM


Let his woman-child have him - dump his shit on her doorstep.


This just breaks my heart - so many years and such a wonderful gift you gave to him -

You're right - enough is enough. We're here for you...please keep us posted.

When you say it will not go well, do you fear you will be harmed? Please have someone with you if that's the case.


1Faith posted 7/22/2013 14:08 PM

Stay strong and know that you are doing the right thing for you and your family.

This is the consequence of your husband's horrid choices.

You have given him multiple opportunities to be an honorable man and father and he has chosen to disregard those chances.

This now stops because you says it stops. Done. He is no longer worth your attempts to reconcile or put up with his lies and the OW's psychotic behavior.

Stick to your guns and know that we are all here rooting for you.


feelingfoolish posted 7/22/2013 14:31 PM

I don't fear for my safety. I think he is going to yell and fuss. There is nothing he can say at this point.

He has lied so much to me, i wouldn't believe anything he said anyways.

SoVerySadNow posted 7/22/2013 14:47 PM

Strength to you.
It's so pathetic when these 40+ y.o. men actually believe that the 20- something y.o. age group are truly into them and will remain faithful. Ha!

Young howorker: "What do you mean, Old Hubby? I can't go clubbing with my friends and stay over at my other sex friend's house? You are so mean, daddy, err, I mean Hubby!"

Jrazz posted 7/22/2013 16:36 PM

I'm so sorry.

It's never completely wasted effort - you've learned that you can overcome something horrendous like this. Look, you've already filed and moved on to the next step. It's not going to be easy, but you sound so strong.

Sending big hugs and support.


soveryweary posted 7/22/2013 16:41 PM

Hugs feeling foolish.
I am in your situation, although a few weeks further in.
Stay strong sweetie.
That first week I honestly thought I was losing my mind.
Stay busy, take care of you and your kids.

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