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User Topic: Wow, not even a head's up???
Mommato4
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Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the text I got today from my XH.

He received paperwork today from my lawyer regarding the termination of alimony(I mentioned it to him when he asked me weeks ago to kick him back some CS for food because he has the kids for 6 weeks this summer) and for possible modification of CS. His income has gone up and he no longer has his previous CS obligation for his now 21 yr old son from his 1st marriage.

It's been 5 years since the D. The alimony is to end this 25th which is stated in our agreement. It has to be court ordered or else it continues (I won't let that happen due to the fact that it's not rightfully mine to take any longer).

My lawyer said well we can look at it all at once. That should save me money by bundling it together.

Wonder if he'll retain one and fight me on CS. He didn't in the D.

Should I have warned him?

[This message edited by Mommato4 at 7:27 PM, July 22nd (Monday)]


Updated 2014:
BS-me 41
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/08

SO-5 years together-he decided to end it by cheating too


Posts: 1380 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: PNW country
peridot
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No, you shouldn't have warned him and I would ignore that text.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You did him a favor, because as you said, he never would have filed, and the alimony wouldn't have stopped. Yes, his CS is going to go up...but do you think your CS is going to go up as much as the alimony was? I mean, this is going to save him cash, I would think. He shouldn't be upset, he should be thanking you!

Ok, maybe you could have/should have told him you were doing it...but in actual fact, you could have just filed for the raise in CS, and not said anything about the alimony.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5626 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Snapdragon
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Member # 4286
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, July 22nd (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two thing: No, you did not need to warn him. You talked about it a couple weeks ago. He is being released from alimony. You'd think that would be good news.

CS should be reviewed every few years. So, this should not be a surprise.

Kicking him back some CS money because he has the kids for 6 weeks doesn't make any sense. CS is set based on the amount of time each parent has with the children and the incomes of both parents. It should be considered a yearly amount of $ transfer that is divided into equal monthly increments. Each parents' monthly expenditures will vary. If you have an EOW arrangement, do you kick him back $ on months with 5 weekends? I'll bet not. So don't continue to practice.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


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