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tennispro posted 7/22/2013 21:17 PM

He didn't even fight for me or the marriage or the family. We've been together for 16 yrs and married for 11yrs. I don't even want him back but, my god, he didn't even fight for us!!! That almost hurts worse than the A. He won't end up with the OW because she lives in Asia and she's married and she won't leave her family. She's just an ego boost for him. Wo knows. I mean, I realize our marriage was not the best but now I feel worse than I did before. I had hope (before the A) that we could work on our issues. He does drink too much and I'm not into drinking at all. That was a big problem.
That's my latest. Headed for divorce.

nomistakeaboutit posted 7/22/2013 23:15 PM

Hi Tennis Pro,

Sorry for your pain. I can relate. The A is one thing, but a lack of remorse and an easy willingness (or even a thinly veiled eagerness) to end the marriage....it's just soul crushing.

I have tried hard to understand it. The closest I have come, so far, is to accept that my xWW was not the person I thought she was, and she didn't love me in the same way I loved her.

Strength to you.

Jrazz posted 7/23/2013 01:23 AM

I'm so sorry, tennispro.

His lack of fighting isn't a reflection on you, it's all on him.

(((tp)))