It is a search for answers to communications from angry STBX, as more and more boundaries come with the divorce process.
He is very, very angry at so many things and it is suspected that his new life is not as rosy as he dreamed, and much of this frustration is coming out in anger at me. I am working very hard not to be a target any longer, but am writing to seek advice for putting up higher walls around myself.
The man has actually blamed me for the legal boundaries we now have and I suspect he doesn't want to remember that I have them, too?
This time is about his visitation-again-he wants to do some plans with DD that I just can't say yes to because they aren't standard, so he is rude and dismissive. He is convinced I am reading the papers wrong when I can't just say yes, but I've had counselors diagnose me as "no dummy".
I've returned to college and actually carry a 4.0.
I don't always know how to interact with this person and tend to just not respond, because the hurt is so piercing and lingers so long.
I don't understand how someone's thinking could be so warped as to continue to believe his life's problems are because of me? I haven't been in his daily life for almost two years now. Did he not think there would be consequences when he first set out to tell OW he was a widower and he was not?
How can it be that he did that himself, made the choice and knew it, but blames me? I am at a loss to this way of thinking and he just continues to treat me as if I'm stupid.
He did also, try to blame his entire A and seeking OWs on me, too. I did not set his GPS or take his profile picture or tell him to.
Any ideas are helpful. Sometimes NC isn't something I can get away with, because it's "yes" or "no" with our daughter.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.